Harsh Breakup

I just recently broke it off with a girlfriend of mine for over a year. We were amazing, never had issues. But one day, she started talking to one of my close friends behind my back, lying about it to me, and just bluntly flirting with him. I asked her politely to stop talking to him that way, and that I don't feel that what she's doing is respectful to me or the relationship. She told him about that and he started threatening to fight me, spread stuff about me, sabotage me. I tried to be civil but he would bring up personal things and etc. I remained calm but it hurt a lot for one of my friends to sabotage me like that. I confronted my girlfriend, she told me that this stuff would quit happening but she lied and continued to speak to him more and me less. He admitted that he was actively trying to get us to breakup so he could get with her, but she didn't care. She told me that she didn't like him but she never bothered to stop his advances on her. We took a break because we needed time, in the end when I tried to get an answer about what were going to do next. She told me that she doesn't know how she feels about him, "maybe I like him, maybe not" and that she doesn't know if she wants to be with me. I was never given a definently answer, I was given I don't knows but she would still say "I love you" and "I care about you". This confused me emotionally, I was struggling to know if I should hold on or give up. I gave it another 2 weeks and talked to her again, this time I asked if she had thought about what she wanted, as I asked her to reflect on what she wanted, and once again she told me "I don't know" and "I didn't care to reflect on what you asked". So I broke it off there. Since then she's been slightly cold. P.S, over this entire time she would post on a secondary social media account about how she feels bad but would never try to fix our problems when we were on speaking terms. She would also talk bad about me to her friends, and I believe they are a big reason for our problems. One in particular goes online and slanders me and she just sits back and let's it happen. I know this is more of a story than a call for advice. But I'd appreciate any comments or advice. I needed to get this off my chest as everything going on has been bothering me and I haven't felt all that amazing anymore. I want to still be with her, she's the only one that has ever made me feel special. She was never like this for the entirety of our relationship, but there was this dramatic change around a month ago. Sparking all of these issues. Edit: I'm Male, she's female. Were both in high school, 15.

Submitted September 25, 2019 at 11:54PM

I just recently broke it off with a girlfriend of mine for over a year. We were amazing, never had issues. But one day, she started talking to one of my close friends behind my back, lying about it to me, and just bluntly flirting with him. I asked her politely to stop talking to him that way, and that I don't feel that what she's doing is respectful to me or the relationship. She told him about that and he started threatening to fight me, spread stuff about me, sabotage me. I tried to be civil but he would bring up personal things and etc. I remained calm but it hurt a lot for one of my friends to sabotage me like that. I confronted my girlfriend, she told me that this stuff would quit happening but she lied and continued to speak to him more and me less. He admitted that he was actively trying to get us to breakup so he could get with her, but she didn't care. She told me that she didn't like him but she never bothered to stop his advances on her. We took a break because we needed time, in the end when I tried to get an answer about what were going to do next. She told me that she doesn't know how she feels about him, "maybe I like him, maybe not" and that she doesn't know if she wants to be with me. I was never given a definently answer, I was given I don't knows but she would still say "I love you" and "I care about you". This confused me emotionally, I was struggling to know if I should hold on or give up. I gave it another 2 weeks and talked to her again, this time I asked if she had thought about what she wanted, as I asked her to reflect on what she wanted, and once again she told me "I don't know" and "I didn't care to reflect on what you asked". So I broke it off there. Since then she's been slightly cold. P.S, over this entire time she would post on a secondary social media account about how she feels bad but would never try to fix our problems when we were on speaking terms. She would also talk bad about me to her friends, and I believe they are a big reason for our problems. One in particular goes online and slanders me and she just sits back and let's it happen. I know this is more of a story than a call for advice. But I'd appreciate any comments or advice. I needed to get this off my chest as everything going on has been bothering me and I haven't felt all that amazing anymore. I want to still be with her, she's the only one that has ever made me feel special. She was never like this for the entirety of our relationship, but there was this dramatic change around a month ago. Sparking all of these issues. Edit: I'm Male, she's female. Were both in high school, 15.