Boyfriend lied straight to my face about messaging girls on social media and while him and I were broken up for only a couple days after I broke up with him

So me and my bf of 2 years broke up for about a few days over a big blow up; I told him I was done and I blocked him off everything. Then a when talking about things and trying to reconcile he said on everything that he loves that he didn’t msgs any girls at all etc and that he’d show me his msgs to prove it and whatever. A disclaimer as well, in the past he has lied plenty of times about things like this and he knows how I feel about him lying straight to my face NOW and we got back together in May and has been very rocky ever since cause I have very big trust issues with him and he promised he wouldn’t lie anymore or msg girls or any of that . He has been trying really hard to show and prove his loyalty to me- had his passwords to his social media, has deleted girls off his social media, if I was suspicious of something he would prove it 100% and all of that. And this time around after talking and hanging out the whole day, in the morning I was looking through his phone (he let me look through it) and found a couple msgs from a couple girls on his fb requests that didn’t add up. I’m assuming he msged them on fb then deleted the msgs and then deleted the girls off fb and then they replied and it showed up in the requests instead and I guess he didn’t realize there was a request section.. but long story short I found those msgs and confronted him and at first he made up excuses and then after I got up and left his house right away he admitted it and texted me telling me that he did msg those girls trying to ask them to come over or wyd etc. and said he was wrong for it but lied to me when we talked cause he didn’t want to lose me if he told me the truth and admitted to msging girls out of spite because I told him I was done and blocked him. What should I do? He has broken my trust many of times and he said many of times he’d stop lying to me. He hasn’t cheated on me (that I know of hopefully not cause I’m like an FBI investigator lol) and I see when we are good how hard he tries to show his loyalty and prove anything to me and how much he really cares, but I feel like him being so quick to msg these girls especially asking randoms to try to come over to be super spiteful a day after we are in argument and on top of that lying straight to my face about it being a manipulative liar trying to convince me he swears he didn’t feels like pretty much the same thing as being cheated on. Someone please help me on what to do I need advice cause I told him I was done but this is really shitty and it hurts being lied to and it’s hard seeing both the really good and the really bad in someone. I’m 24 years old so I’m starting to get to the point where I don’t have time for spiteful immature shit that continues happening because I have always been very very loyal and I need someone to match my loyalty not hurt me.

TL;DR boyfriend lied straight to my face about msging girls while being broken up for only a couple day and now I’m not sure what to do.



Submitted September 02, 2019 at 12:22AM

So me and my bf of 2 years broke up for about a few days over a big blow up; I told him I was done and I blocked him off everything. Then a when talking about things and trying to reconcile he said on everything that he loves that he didn’t msgs any girls at all etc and that he’d show me his msgs to prove it and whatever. A disclaimer as well, in the past he has lied plenty of times about things like this and he knows how I feel about him lying straight to my face NOW and we got back together in May and has been very rocky ever since cause I have very big trust issues with him and he promised he wouldn’t lie anymore or msg girls or any of that . He has been trying really hard to show and prove his loyalty to me- had his passwords to his social media, has deleted girls off his social media, if I was suspicious of something he would prove it 100% and all of that. And this time around after talking and hanging out the whole day, in the morning I was looking through his phone (he let me look through it) and found a couple msgs from a couple girls on his fb requests that didn’t add up. I’m assuming he msged them on fb then deleted the msgs and then deleted the girls off fb and then they replied and it showed up in the requests instead and I guess he didn’t realize there was a request section.. but long story short I found those msgs and confronted him and at first he made up excuses and then after I got up and left his house right away he admitted it and texted me telling me that he did msg those girls trying to ask them to come over or wyd etc. and said he was wrong for it but lied to me when we talked cause he didn’t want to lose me if he told me the truth and admitted to msging girls out of spite because I told him I was done and blocked him. What should I do? He has broken my trust many of times and he said many of times he’d stop lying to me. He hasn’t cheated on me (that I know of hopefully not cause I’m like an FBI investigator lol) and I see when we are good how hard he tries to show his loyalty and prove anything to me and how much he really cares, but I feel like him being so quick to msg these girls especially asking randoms to try to come over to be super spiteful a day after we are in argument and on top of that lying straight to my face about it being a manipulative liar trying to convince me he swears he didn’t feels like pretty much the same thing as being cheated on. Someone please help me on what to do I need advice cause I told him I was done but this is really shitty and it hurts being lied to and it’s hard seeing both the really good and the really bad in someone. I’m 24 years old so I’m starting to get to the point where I don’t have time for spiteful immature shit that continues happening because I have always been very very loyal and I need someone to match my loyalty not hurt me.TL;DR boyfriend lied straight to my face about msging girls while being broken up for only a couple day and now I’m not sure what to do.
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