Should I press her, or has she already told me?

This is going to be long, but I want to properly explain the relationship.

I am 23, and she is 18. We are peers at work; she's actually been there longer. We have always been friendly, and in the past few months, we have gotten closer. We and her cousin (also my friend) hung out once, and the next day at work, the girl was giving me extra smiley eyes, and there was a moment where her arm/body was unnecessarily touching my arm/body as we were standing beside each other for like, 8 seconds. Her parents kicked her out 4 weeks ago, and I have tried to become a strong rock of support for her. In this time, we have hung out alone twice. Once after my shift, at midnight. We ate fast food and talked for over 2 hours. The other time was when she wanted to be removed from a situation but doesn't have a car anymore (kicked out and cut off). She asked me to pick her up and take her to the movies; we ate fast food again after.

During all this, she has been entangled with another dude. A dude she now admits that she had previously been dating, essentially (she'd never admit to me that they were dating until recently, when he was an ex bf, allegedly). At that first hangout with her cousin, I asked her point blank if she's single because I found her to be perplexing. She said she was, and she has always maintained that she's single or that she and he are just friends when I ask/he's brought up.

Her solution to being kicked out is, unfortunately, to move in with her dad, 6 hours away, for 10 months.

Now that I've set all that up, there is a very strong possibility that she knows I like her. I compliment her appearance/attitude/accomplishments often, usually without much subtlety. She always accepts graciously and seems super pleased for a while after. I planned to tell her how i feel about her after a (not a) date tomorrow night.

This is where things happened. I narrow choices down to 2 high end places and ask her to choose between Italian or southern food. She picks Italian, so I tell her that we're going to a fancy Italian place. She's excited and says she's never heard of it. I tell her that I hadn't either and that by just googled fancy restaurants and narrowed it down. She becomes jokingly concerned about the prices, so I tell her not to worry, that I got paid today. She corrected me, saying that WE got paid today. I retorted with "yea but you ain't paying for anything :P" She said "yikes I'll pay for something". I should have left it alone there and finished that topic at the end of dinner, but I didn't because I'm dumb. I told her that I'm comfortable with her paying for stuff in general, but that I was "trying to take you out" and that since it had all been my idea, I didn't want to effectively force her into paying a lot of money. I also proposed a schedule. Her response was "whoa🤣🤣" followed by a jovial agreement to my schedule.

You all don't know her or me, but I hope I've provided some insight into our relationship.

Do you all think she's into me? Perhaps she doesn't want to do long distance. Maybe she was previously into me? Am I reading too much into everything (I know I am lol)? Should I even tell her how I feel, or does she obviously know, and a verbalizaton will just make things awkward?

Submitted August 29, 2019 at 12:04AM

This is going to be long, but I want to properly explain the relationship.I am 23, and she is 18. We are peers at work; she's actually been there longer. We have always been friendly, and in the past few months, we have gotten closer. We and her cousin (also my friend) hung out once, and the next day at work, the girl was giving me extra smiley eyes, and there was a moment where her arm/body was unnecessarily touching my arm/body as we were standing beside each other for like, 8 seconds. Her parents kicked her out 4 weeks ago, and I have tried to become a strong rock of support for her. In this time, we have hung out alone twice. Once after my shift, at midnight. We ate fast food and talked for over 2 hours. The other time was when she wanted to be removed from a situation but doesn't have a car anymore (kicked out and cut off). She asked me to pick her up and take her to the movies; we ate fast food again after.During all this, she has been entangled with another dude. A dude she now admits that she had previously been dating, essentially (she'd never admit to me that they were dating until recently, when he was an ex bf, allegedly). At that first hangout with her cousin, I asked her point blank if she's single because I found her to be perplexing. She said she was, and she has always maintained that she's single or that she and he are just friends when I ask/he's brought up.Her solution to being kicked out is, unfortunately, to move in with her dad, 6 hours away, for 10 months.Now that I've set all that up, there is a very strong possibility that she knows I like her. I compliment her appearance/attitude/accomplishments often, usually without much subtlety. She always accepts graciously and seems super pleased for a while after. I planned to tell her how i feel about her after a (not a) date tomorrow night.This is where things happened. I narrow choices down to 2 high end places and ask her to choose between Italian or southern food. She picks Italian, so I tell her that we're going to a fancy Italian place. She's excited and says she's never heard of it. I tell her that I hadn't either and that by just googled fancy restaurants and narrowed it down. She becomes jokingly concerned about the prices, so I tell her not to worry, that I got paid today. She corrected me, saying that WE got paid today. I retorted with "yea but you ain't paying for anything :P" She said "yikes I'll pay for something". I should have left it alone there and finished that topic at the end of dinner, but I didn't because I'm dumb. I told her that I'm comfortable with her paying for stuff in general, but that I was "trying to take you out" and that since it had all been my idea, I didn't want to effectively force her into paying a lot of money. I also proposed a schedule. Her response was "whoa🤣🤣" followed by a jovial agreement to my schedule.You all don't know her or me, but I hope I've provided some insight into our relationship.Do you all think she's into me? Perhaps she doesn't want to do long distance. Maybe she was previously into me? Am I reading too much into everything (I know I am lol)? Should I even tell her how I feel, or does she obviously know, and a verbalizaton will just make things awkward?