Constant rejection doesn't mean that you're disposable. Any more than constant validation means you're infallible.

This post is a shout out to all the rejected people on here. If you feel negative about yourself, then I'm sorry. That shit sucks.

This post is also a shout out to the people who are somehow doing 'ok' in the dating arena. That's great. Just dont think that you're immune to self-reflection and growth just because you found that 'person.'

People get so complacent with themselves in relationships.

For the rejected people like myself, it's hard to see that others could ever find you desirable. You wonder what's wrong with you.

I wrote in another post that dating should never be the endgame. Growing as a person should be. It ideally never stops. Even when you're 70 years and above, your personal growth journey should never stop.

Emotionally, it can also be dangerous to be in a relationship. Now that you have 'that person,' you may be tempted to coast on your personal development.

Please resist that urge. The relationship you have with yourself should still be the most important thing. Don't forget that. Post that shit on a wall to look at everyday.

Rejected people of Reddit, I raise a toast to you.

A toast to all the men who feel the pressure and weight of gender expectations.

A toast to all the women who feel the pressure of gender expectations.

A toast to all the people who asked out that person and got the "I'm dating someone" rejection.

A toast to all the people who were in love with their best friend and got rejected that way.

A toast to all the people ghosted beyond their first date you thought went really well.

A toast to all the people who cant get noticed on those stupid dating apps.

A toast to all the people who fear losing the relationship that they're in.

A toast to all the people bitter at the opposite sex. Hope y'all can rise above it even if it's stupidly tough.

A toast to all the LGBQT people on here struggling with the above stuff.

A toast to the single moms and dads who cant find a relationship. Keep on keeping on.

A toast to anyone out here who is trying to DM that person on Instagram/Social Media and hoping that they respond to it.

A toast to anyone talking to someone via a dating app and trying their best to play it cool. It doesnt take much to lose someone's attention.

A toast to those who hate texting but do it as a necessary evil.

A toast to those who hate phone calls but do them as a necessary evil.

A toast to the long distance relationships.

A toast to the people who cant trust their partner.

A toast to people on here who are seeking validation in a cruel world.

A toast to the people who work on themselves and still cant get noticed.

A toast to the people who date as a necessary evil but hate the process.

A toast to the people who worry about looking needy or seeming clingy.

A toast to the people who feel inferior to their partner.

A toast to the people without cars. Dating just got even tougher. I struggle with driving anxiety myself.

A toast to the people who wonder wtf happened to that person they just talked to.

A toast to people disappointed in their last kiss.

A toast to people disappointed by the myth of Hollywood about how 'romances' were supposed to be.

A toast to the insecure people on here dealing with mental health issues.

A toast to the people of color feeling discriminated because of what they look like.

A toast to the people who feel like they have to put on a persona to the people that they date.

A toast to those struggling with bills.

A toast to the late bloomers. I'm one of you. 👍

A toast to those holding their pet tight wishing they had a person to hold instead.

A toast to the shy people on here.

A toast to the people who want to cry and scream but cant because they'd look psychotic.

A toast to the third wheels.

A toast to the people who have lost friendships with people who paired off.

A toast to the people who use this shit as fuel to exercise like maniacs in the gym.

A toast to the people who want to say "I love you" but wont because of the baggage of those three words.

Finally, a toast to everyone in general for any dating issue that you may have. Because fuck it. Dating is hard.

Y'all are doing great. Please be kind to yourself. I need to heed my own advice.

Submitted August 29, 2019 at 12:13AM

This post is a shout out to all the rejected people on here. If you feel negative about yourself, then I'm sorry. That shit sucks.This post is also a shout out to the people who are somehow doing 'ok' in the dating arena. That's great. Just dont think that you're immune to self-reflection and growth just because you found that 'person.'People get so complacent with themselves in relationships.For the rejected people like myself, it's hard to see that others could ever find you desirable. You wonder what's wrong with you.I wrote in another post that dating should never be the endgame. Growing as a person should be. It ideally never stops. Even when you're 70 years and above, your personal growth journey should never stop.Emotionally, it can also be dangerous to be in a relationship. Now that you have 'that person,' you may be tempted to coast on your personal development.Please resist that urge. The relationship you have with yourself should still be the most important thing. Don't forget that. Post that shit on a wall to look at everyday.Rejected people of Reddit, I raise a toast to you.A toast to all the men who feel the pressure and weight of gender expectations.A toast to all the women who feel the pressure of gender expectations.A toast to all the people who asked out that person and got the "I'm dating someone" rejection.A toast to all the people who were in love with their best friend and got rejected that way.A toast to all the people ghosted beyond their first date you thought went really well.A toast to all the people who cant get noticed on those stupid dating apps.A toast to all the people who fear losing the relationship that they're in.A toast to all the people bitter at the opposite sex. Hope y'all can rise above it even if it's stupidly tough.A toast to all the LGBQT people on here struggling with the above stuff.A toast to the single moms and dads who cant find a relationship. Keep on keeping on.A toast to anyone out here who is trying to DM that person on Instagram/Social Media and hoping that they respond to it.A toast to anyone talking to someone via a dating app and trying their best to play it cool. It doesnt take much to lose someone's attention.A toast to those who hate texting but do it as a necessary evil.A toast to those who hate phone calls but do them as a necessary evil.A toast to the long distance relationships.A toast to the people who cant trust their partner.A toast to people on here who are seeking validation in a cruel world.A toast to the people who work on themselves and still cant get noticed.A toast to the people who date as a necessary evil but hate the process.A toast to the people who worry about looking needy or seeming clingy.A toast to the people who feel inferior to their partner.A toast to the people without cars. Dating just got even tougher. I struggle with driving anxiety myself.A toast to the people who wonder wtf happened to that person they just talked to.A toast to people disappointed in their last kiss.A toast to people disappointed by the myth of Hollywood about how 'romances' were supposed to be.A toast to the insecure people on here dealing with mental health issues.A toast to the people of color feeling discriminated because of what they look like.A toast to the people who feel like they have to put on a persona to the people that they date.A toast to those struggling with bills.A toast to the late bloomers. I'm one of you. 👍A toast to those holding their pet tight wishing they had a person to hold instead.A toast to the shy people on here.A toast to the people who want to cry and scream but cant because they'd look psychotic.A toast to the third wheels.A toast to the people who have lost friendships with people who paired off.A toast to the people who use this shit as fuel to exercise like maniacs in the gym.A toast to the people who want to say "I love you" but wont because of the baggage of those three words.Finally, a toast to everyone in general for any dating issue that you may have. Because fuck it. Dating is hard.Y'all are doing great. Please be kind to yourself. I need to heed my own advice.