My (F21) boyfriend (M21) told his female friend (F21) he didn’t see himself ending up with me and I don’t know what to do

Title pretty much explains it, but I want to go into more detail and give some backstory. Please forgive me as so much is going on in my head right now this will probably be word vomit. Also I’m sorry I’m not proofreading I don’t wanna cry anymore lol. If any clarification is needed just let me know. tl;dr is at bottom.

So, we’ll call me Jess, my boyfriend Greg, his female friend Lexie, and his male friend (who will come into play later) Jack.

I’ve been dating Greg for 2 1/2 months, so fairly new but we started talking almost 6 months ago. Either way, not a really long time, but that’s not important. Greg has been close friends with Lexie since 2017, which is fine, I’m not one of those people that thinks boys and girls can’t be friends, but ever since they first met she’s been VERY flirty. Like as flirty as one can be without straight up kissing the other. Greg knows it and his friends tell him she’s doing it all the time. They’ve both been single at the same time though and he’s told me many times he doesn’t have any feelings towards her, so to me it seems like if something was gonna happen it would have right now. Cool. That’s fine. Until I recently saw messages between them (I was using his phone and I ended up looking at his texts with her, go ahead and roast me in the comments if you want I know I shouldn’t have done it, but she’s so flirty with him I couldn’t help myself) in which Lexie said to Greg “If we’re both single when it’s time to move let’s fucking do it (move to another state). Or if you’ve still got a lady friend we could still do it and all live separately lol.” To which Greg responded “Ehh I don’t see myself staying with Jess. It’s good for where I am now but I don’t see me moving to state with her.”

What. The. Fuck. Am I wrong for thinking that’s a fucked up thing to say??? We’re graduating in the next year so I feel like at this point if you’re not dating someone to be with them in the long run you’re just wasting their time.

Moving on to the next thing that bothers me about Lexie. She told Greg I wasn’t his type (types are stupid but whatever) and when he asked her what his type was then she said “I don’t know, just not Jess.” Which to me, is a really weird thing to say? And only adds to me being upset by the “not ending up together” thing as well as how close they are.

Lastly, the thing that really pushed me over the edge into making this post is that Greg’s best friend Jack told him the other night “I don’t know why you’re with Jess, you should be with Lexie.” WHYYYYYYY. Jack said this at a bar and Greg came back to my place after to sleep and told me about it. I’m so hurt because I thought Jack and I were good friends.

There’s so much going on and I feel like these are all red flags and I should cut it off, but even already I can feel myself starting to love Greg and I can’t bring myself to end it. I can’t even bring up the texts that I saw because then he’ll yell at me for looking at his phone and/or break up with me and that scares me. I’m at a loss. Please help me.

tl;dr My boyfriend told his female friend that has a crush on him that he didn’t see himself ending up with me. His best friend also told him he should be dating said female friend instead of me. What do I do?

Submitted August 05, 2019 at 11:38PM

Title pretty much explains it, but I want to go into more detail and give some backstory. Please forgive me as so much is going on in my head right now this will probably be word vomit. Also I’m sorry I’m not proofreading I don’t wanna cry anymore lol. If any clarification is needed just let me know. tl;dr is at bottom.So, we’ll call me Jess, my boyfriend Greg, his female friend Lexie, and his male friend (who will come into play later) Jack.I’ve been dating Greg for 2 1/2 months, so fairly new but we started talking almost 6 months ago. Either way, not a really long time, but that’s not important. Greg has been close friends with Lexie since 2017, which is fine, I’m not one of those people that thinks boys and girls can’t be friends, but ever since they first met she’s been VERY flirty. Like as flirty as one can be without straight up kissing the other. Greg knows it and his friends tell him she’s doing it all the time. They’ve both been single at the same time though and he’s told me many times he doesn’t have any feelings towards her, so to me it seems like if something was gonna happen it would have right now. Cool. That’s fine. Until I recently saw messages between them (I was using his phone and I ended up looking at his texts with her, go ahead and roast me in the comments if you want I know I shouldn’t have done it, but she’s so flirty with him I couldn’t help myself) in which Lexie said to Greg “If we’re both single when it’s time to move let’s fucking do it (move to another state). Or if you’ve still got a lady friend we could still do it and all live separately lol.” To which Greg responded “Ehh I don’t see myself staying with Jess. It’s good for where I am now but I don’t see me moving to state with her.”What. The. Fuck. Am I wrong for thinking that’s a fucked up thing to say??? We’re graduating in the next year so I feel like at this point if you’re not dating someone to be with them in the long run you’re just wasting their time.Moving on to the next thing that bothers me about Lexie. She told Greg I wasn’t his type (types are stupid but whatever) and when he asked her what his type was then she said “I don’t know, just not Jess.” Which to me, is a really weird thing to say? And only adds to me being upset by the “not ending up together” thing as well as how close they are.Lastly, the thing that really pushed me over the edge into making this post is that Greg’s best friend Jack told him the other night “I don’t know why you’re with Jess, you should be with Lexie.” WHYYYYYYY. Jack said this at a bar and Greg came back to my place after to sleep and told me about it. I’m so hurt because I thought Jack and I were good friends.There’s so much going on and I feel like these are all red flags and I should cut it off, but even already I can feel myself starting to love Greg and I can’t bring myself to end it. I can’t even bring up the texts that I saw because then he’ll yell at me for looking at his phone and/or break up with me and that scares me. I’m at a loss. Please help me.tl;dr My boyfriend told his female friend that has a crush on him that he didn’t see himself ending up with me. His best friend also told him he should be dating said female friend instead of me. What do I do?