Ladies, why don’t you like being a guy’s first time?

So a major problem I’ve run into in my dating life is while I have built up quite a bit of confidence and I can talk to girls just fine I haven’t really done a lot of physical stuff and I’m still not entirely comfortable with it yet. I’ve kissed a handful of girls here and there and almost lost my virginity once except I didn’t quite fit in her so that was the end of that. My lack of experience seems to be a major turn off for a lot of girls and even though I NEVER bring it up unless they directly ask me about it it’s not exactly rocket science for them to figure it out. I’ve had girls tell me that I feel tense when hugged and my general nervousness towards being physical gives it away pretty quick. Every girl has generally the same response that they aren’t comfortable taking a guy’s virginity and that she wouldn’t feel comfortable being in a relationship because that would eventually come up and it would be awkward and such.

I asked a close female friend of mine once what her thoughts on it were and she said taking a guy’s virginity is too much pressure on her to make it good for him which confused me a little bit. Like what does the girl actually do during sex? Isn’t it mostly up to the guy?

I understand the sex isn’t going to be great from a virgin who has no idea what he’s doing but I really don’t understand why almost every girl I’ve ever met isn’t comfortable sleeping with a virgin and it has been a major contributing factor as to why she isn’t interested in a relationship with me. I would like to hear your thoughts on the matter because this kinda baffles me.

Submitted August 05, 2019 at 11:55PM

So a major problem I’ve run into in my dating life is while I have built up quite a bit of confidence and I can talk to girls just fine I haven’t really done a lot of physical stuff and I’m still not entirely comfortable with it yet. I’ve kissed a handful of girls here and there and almost lost my virginity once except I didn’t quite fit in her so that was the end of that. My lack of experience seems to be a major turn off for a lot of girls and even though I NEVER bring it up unless they directly ask me about it it’s not exactly rocket science for them to figure it out. I’ve had girls tell me that I feel tense when hugged and my general nervousness towards being physical gives it away pretty quick. Every girl has generally the same response that they aren’t comfortable taking a guy’s virginity and that she wouldn’t feel comfortable being in a relationship because that would eventually come up and it would be awkward and such.I asked a close female friend of mine once what her thoughts on it were and she said taking a guy’s virginity is too much pressure on her to make it good for him which confused me a little bit. Like what does the girl actually do during sex? Isn’t it mostly up to the guy?I understand the sex isn’t going to be great from a virgin who has no idea what he’s doing but I really don’t understand why almost every girl I’ve ever met isn’t comfortable sleeping with a virgin and it has been a major contributing factor as to why she isn’t interested in a relationship with me. I would like to hear your thoughts on the matter because this kinda baffles me.