We recently met but I'm going to be away. Should I ask him to visit?

Some men would take some things coming from you as an indicator that you are: 1) desperate. 2) in love with them. 3) wanting to be in a relationship ASAP and whoever knows what else.

So I'm extra careful with not doing something "wrong" at this early stage, to the point that I might stop doing/saying what I really want - in the end, stop being myself.

Long story short: I met this guy a month ago through this dating app (I'm 27, he's 30). Since then, we saw each other every other day and slept at each others houses. We both felt a strong connection. Two weeks later he had to leave home (Denmark) for two weeks (we both are from different countries to the one we live in) and I was unsure whether he would keep in touch: he actually did and I was very happy about it. He also knew I was going home in Spain for the summer (7 weeks) three days after he returned from home. Heat some point said, over text, "if you kee talking about those beaches I will end up coming haha", but then we both took it as we were joking around, even though I said I wouldnt mind :P.

As you can see, is more time away than the time we spent together so far. I asked him whether we should do something together before I flew home and he said 'absolutely', and suggested a hiking trip for the weekend. On Sunday, just before flying, I had to move house and he even offered to help with last bits, so he came home to do so and to have dinner with me. When we said goodbye I mentioned, in a very relaxed way and because the conversation led to it, that I'd be so nice for him to come (I know he'd love to come to my country and we are into the same plans: traveling, hiking, roadtrips, etc) and he said a roadtrip it'd be nice but we didn't continue talking about that: we had to separate and I had to take this fight very early in the morning. I said I know we just met but it feels good to be around him and nowadays it's so easy to travel (he said it's good to be around me too).

Whenever we hanged out, our plans have not only been sex related (sex and the desire between both is amazing, I must say) but involved cycling, just chilling at the park, cooking and watching a movie... All very nice and I don't think he's after sex only, but rather open to whatever might happen, like me. We can't simply stop looking at each other and kissing. I can feel the feeling is mutual.

So it all seems crazy but trust me, it's been years since I don't feel this good about anyone and I feel I want to risk it all.

Thing is, I've already invited him and expressed with my acts how much I like him. Do you think I should bring the topic about meeting again? I don't want to add pressure, I just like him so much that I want to see him, as if we were still in the same city, as if we didn't have to be away for so long at this super early stage. I would never suggest to go on holiday at this stage. It just happened we just met at a very "bad" timing.

I was thinking to say something like "I've been thinking about what you said about the roadtrip", so I'm actually reminding him his own words 😅.

How can I ask to see him without "scaring him away"? What do you guys think? Bear in mind Im not the kind of woman who wants to be in a relationship/get married no matter what. I was very, very happy by myself and wasn't planning to feel this way.

Wow, I meant to sum up but definitely not my strength. Sorry and thank you!

Submitted July 25, 2019 at 11:49PM

Some men would take some things coming from you as an indicator that you are: 1) desperate. 2) in love with them. 3) wanting to be in a relationship ASAP and whoever knows what else.So I'm extra careful with not doing something "wrong" at this early stage, to the point that I might stop doing/saying what I really want - in the end, stop being myself.Long story short: I met this guy a month ago through this dating app (I'm 27, he's 30). Since then, we saw each other every other day and slept at each others houses. We both felt a strong connection. Two weeks later he had to leave home (Denmark) for two weeks (we both are from different countries to the one we live in) and I was unsure whether he would keep in touch: he actually did and I was very happy about it. He also knew I was going home in Spain for the summer (7 weeks) three days after he returned from home. Heat some point said, over text, "if you kee talking about those beaches I will end up coming haha", but then we both took it as we were joking around, even though I said I wouldnt mind :P.As you can see, is more time away than the time we spent together so far. I asked him whether we should do something together before I flew home and he said 'absolutely', and suggested a hiking trip for the weekend. On Sunday, just before flying, I had to move house and he even offered to help with last bits, so he came home to do so and to have dinner with me. When we said goodbye I mentioned, in a very relaxed way and because the conversation led to it, that I'd be so nice for him to come (I know he'd love to come to my country and we are into the same plans: traveling, hiking, roadtrips, etc) and he said a roadtrip it'd be nice but we didn't continue talking about that: we had to separate and I had to take this fight very early in the morning. I said I know we just met but it feels good to be around him and nowadays it's so easy to travel (he said it's good to be around me too).Whenever we hanged out, our plans have not only been sex related (sex and the desire between both is amazing, I must say) but involved cycling, just chilling at the park, cooking and watching a movie... All very nice and I don't think he's after sex only, but rather open to whatever might happen, like me. We can't simply stop looking at each other and kissing. I can feel the feeling is mutual.So it all seems crazy but trust me, it's been years since I don't feel this good about anyone and I feel I want to risk it all.Thing is, I've already invited him and expressed with my acts how much I like him. Do you think I should bring the topic about meeting again? I don't want to add pressure, I just like him so much that I want to see him, as if we were still in the same city, as if we didn't have to be away for so long at this super early stage. I would never suggest to go on holiday at this stage. It just happened we just met at a very "bad" timing.I was thinking to say something like "I've been thinking about what you said about the roadtrip", so I'm actually reminding him his own words 😅.How can I ask to see him without "scaring him away"? What do you guys think? Bear in mind Im not the kind of woman who wants to be in a relationship/get married no matter what. I was very, very happy by myself and wasn't planning to feel this way.Wow, I meant to sum up but definitely not my strength. Sorry and thank you!