Every failure prepares you for success in the future and helps lessen the pain, but only if you let it.

There is something to learn from every unsuccessful move you make in the dating world. Whether it’s a breakup, getting rejected, or not even working up the courage to ask the person out at all, there’s something to take from it. The hard part is recognizing it.

It is incredibly easy to just suffer through the pain of a failed relationship or a rejection but to fully move on and learn from it you need to spend some time thinking about what went wrong and how you can do a better job in the future. Not only are you helping your future self it really helps you move on instead of being stuck on the person who rejected or dumped you.

For example: more than a year ago I met a girl and fell HARD for her. Going over the edge of the Grand Canyon hard. We became decent friends and eventually I worked up the courage to ask her out for coffee. She let me down easy but it hurt. Bad. It took me forever to get over her and for the life of me I couldn’t figure out why. Eventually I realized that it was because of how hard I fell and how much of a pedestal I put her on. Realizing that helped me so much to move on and we’re actually really close friends now and I’m thankful for it. I’ve met another girl now that I can feel myself catching feelings for but I keep reminding myself to temper my expectations and take it a little slower. If I hadn’t spent the time to sit down and think about what went wrong last year I’d be setting myself up for failure again.

I’m not sure if this post makes any sense but here’s what I’m trying to say: there’s always a reason for why relationship didn’t work out or why it hurts so bad or why you can’t move on. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to reflect a little and realize what it is to better set your self up for success or at least a less painful situation in the future.

Good luck out there!

Submitted July 25, 2019 at 11:12PM

There is something to learn from every unsuccessful move you make in the dating world. Whether it’s a breakup, getting rejected, or not even working up the courage to ask the person out at all, there’s something to take from it. The hard part is recognizing it.It is incredibly easy to just suffer through the pain of a failed relationship or a rejection but to fully move on and learn from it you need to spend some time thinking about what went wrong and how you can do a better job in the future. Not only are you helping your future self it really helps you move on instead of being stuck on the person who rejected or dumped you.For example: more than a year ago I met a girl and fell HARD for her. Going over the edge of the Grand Canyon hard. We became decent friends and eventually I worked up the courage to ask her out for coffee. She let me down easy but it hurt. Bad. It took me forever to get over her and for the life of me I couldn’t figure out why. Eventually I realized that it was because of how hard I fell and how much of a pedestal I put her on. Realizing that helped me so much to move on and we’re actually really close friends now and I’m thankful for it. I’ve met another girl now that I can feel myself catching feelings for but I keep reminding myself to temper my expectations and take it a little slower. If I hadn’t spent the time to sit down and think about what went wrong last year I’d be setting myself up for failure again.I’m not sure if this post makes any sense but here’s what I’m trying to say: there’s always a reason for why relationship didn’t work out or why it hurts so bad or why you can’t move on. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to reflect a little and realize what it is to better set your self up for success or at least a less painful situation in the future.Good luck out there!