I need to muster the courage to tell her, but I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual

A year and a half ago, my exgf broke up with me and left me in shambles. She had a very toxic behavior towards me and tried to isolate me from my family and most precious friends. When I found out that she was also cheating on me, she tried everything she could to make me the bad guy in the relationship. I was devastated. She even took my beloved pet cat that I myself raised.

When I got back home (or square one, as I used to think), I felt like I was worthless. I felt truly alone even when I had the support of my family and closest friends. I decided to get back on my feet, hit the gym, joined a local gaming group, and slowly regained my self-confidence.

Since my exgf had arguments with nearly everyone that I used to get along with, I decided to get back in touch with a girl that I really enjoyed spending time with. We've known each other for at least 3 years now, minus the time we stopped hanging out while I was living with my exgf.

Every time that I go to her city, she makes time to see me. We arrange a meet-up, hang out, go to restaurants, and spend all day together. And I mean all day. One time she even spent the night at my place because she didn't have any means to get back home. We spent hours talking that night and went to bed super late. No sex, obviously, but we sat very close to each other, hugged a couple times and kissed her cheek once. She smiled and seemed to appreciate the gesture.

We text each other very often, but being the introvert that I am, I struggle at small talk via texting. Our next meeting is already set in a couple of weeks. I want to surprise her with a home-made dessert from a videogame we both like.

I think that she hasn't made any evident signs of romantic interest towards me because she has also had a couple toxic relationships in the past and don't want to risk. If I haven't told her already either, I just don't know. That's why I want to surprise her with the dessert, and just say it outright and be done with my shyness.

I think I'm ready for a relationship. I'm not afraid of rejection, but I'm heartache. How can I muster up courage?

TL;DR got back in touch with a girl, we're both heartache, I'm shy via texting but we enjoy spending time together, I'm afraid of telling my feelings towards her but I want to surprise her with a homemade dessert



Submitted July 25, 2019 at 11:18PM

A year and a half ago, my exgf broke up with me and left me in shambles. She had a very toxic behavior towards me and tried to isolate me from my family and most precious friends. When I found out that she was also cheating on me, she tried everything she could to make me the bad guy in the relationship. I was devastated. She even took my beloved pet cat that I myself raised.When I got back home (or square one, as I used to think), I felt like I was worthless. I felt truly alone even when I had the support of my family and closest friends. I decided to get back on my feet, hit the gym, joined a local gaming group, and slowly regained my self-confidence.Since my exgf had arguments with nearly everyone that I used to get along with, I decided to get back in touch with a girl that I really enjoyed spending time with. We've known each other for at least 3 years now, minus the time we stopped hanging out while I was living with my exgf.Every time that I go to her city, she makes time to see me. We arrange a meet-up, hang out, go to restaurants, and spend all day together. And I mean all day. One time she even spent the night at my place because she didn't have any means to get back home. We spent hours talking that night and went to bed super late. No sex, obviously, but we sat very close to each other, hugged a couple times and kissed her cheek once. She smiled and seemed to appreciate the gesture.We text each other very often, but being the introvert that I am, I struggle at small talk via texting. Our next meeting is already set in a couple of weeks. I want to surprise her with a home-made dessert from a videogame we both like.I think that she hasn't made any evident signs of romantic interest towards me because she has also had a couple toxic relationships in the past and don't want to risk. If I haven't told her already either, I just don't know. That's why I want to surprise her with the dessert, and just say it outright and be done with my shyness.I think I'm ready for a relationship. I'm not afraid of rejection, but I'm heartache. How can I muster up courage?TL;DR got back in touch with a girl, we're both heartache, I'm shy via texting but we enjoy spending time together, I'm afraid of telling my feelings towards her but I want to surprise her with a homemade dessert
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