Resources for practicing patience in a relationship?

I (24f) moved in with my bf (22m) a couple weeks ago, and I think the stress of the move has put me on edge and made me super impatient and prone to losing my temper a bit. I’m introverted and have (well, appear to have) endless patience with my friends and where I work. I’m very quiet and don’t like confrontation. A lot of people would say I’m easy going.

I’ve been with my bf for more than 6 years, and it seems that I take out a lot of stress and frustration on him. He’s the person I’m most comfortable around, so he kind of gets the most of my emotions. Sometimes it means me being super happy, and sometimes when I’m having a bad day something small he does sets me off. Ex. I left him a list of small chores before I left for work that he had all day to do, and when I came home 8 hours later nothing was done. This was a small issue but it soured my mood and caused a big fight that could have been solved by communication. After arguing about it we got to the end point that I’m very intolerant to the normal clutter of moving two people from separate multi-bed apartments into a studio. Basically I just need to have more patience with the situation and with him.

I do appreciate him and love him for who he is. Sure, he waits until the last minute to do things I ask sometimes but he does plenty to make up for those times. I let one thing bother me and then I don’t feel like returning his affection or generally being nice. I grew up with an impatient father and I DO NOT want this to be one of my defining qualities. Are there some exercises, TED talks, podcasts or whatever that you guys use to practice gratitude and appreciation of your SO’s that leads to better patience? Or ones for patience in relationships in general?

TLDR; I’m impatient with my bf but no one else. I want to practice appreciation and gratitude so little things stop setting me off.



Submitted June 16, 2019 at 12:20AM

I (24f) moved in with my bf (22m) a couple weeks ago, and I think the stress of the move has put me on edge and made me super impatient and prone to losing my temper a bit. I’m introverted and have (well, appear to have) endless patience with my friends and where I work. I’m very quiet and don’t like confrontation. A lot of people would say I’m easy going.I’ve been with my bf for more than 6 years, and it seems that I take out a lot of stress and frustration on him. He’s the person I’m most comfortable around, so he kind of gets the most of my emotions. Sometimes it means me being super happy, and sometimes when I’m having a bad day something small he does sets me off. Ex. I left him a list of small chores before I left for work that he had all day to do, and when I came home 8 hours later nothing was done. This was a small issue but it soured my mood and caused a big fight that could have been solved by communication. After arguing about it we got to the end point that I’m very intolerant to the normal clutter of moving two people from separate multi-bed apartments into a studio. Basically I just need to have more patience with the situation and with him.I do appreciate him and love him for who he is. Sure, he waits until the last minute to do things I ask sometimes but he does plenty to make up for those times. I let one thing bother me and then I don’t feel like returning his affection or generally being nice. I grew up with an impatient father and I DO NOT want this to be one of my defining qualities. Are there some exercises, TED talks, podcasts or whatever that you guys use to practice gratitude and appreciation of your SO’s that leads to better patience? Or ones for patience in relationships in general?TLDR; I’m impatient with my bf but no one else. I want to practice appreciation and gratitude so little things stop setting me off.
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