People who use dating apps just to find friends..

Is this common? I met this guy on okcupid. I knew, not to sound shallow, just from looking at his pictures and reading most of his profile that he was probably a little out of my league. Incredibly hot. Very artistic. I decided to shoot my shot, so I sent him a witty message. This was back in December. We exchanged messages over the app for a few weeks before moving into texting. The texting was never altogether flirtatious. It was friendly, but in the beginning I thought it was just assumed that we were both attracted to each other because we matched on a dating site. I also thought it would turn flirtier once we saw each other. Before we met up for the first time, I asked him if it was a date or a friendly hang because I didn't want to feel dejected if it didn't pan out the way I expected, and I made a joke by apologizing if that was awkward to ask. He was super nice about it and said it wasn't a weird thing to ask, but that he wanted to keep it as a "mutual love for movies/ platonic hang" because we were going to see a movie at the time. I was more attracted to him in person, but I felt a little let down that I was being friend-zoned before we even met. Regardless, we had a lot in common and it was fun. We met up again a few more times to see movies or grab beer and talk. I was confused on the first hang because he paid for everything, but assumed he was just a friendly guy.

Ever since then, over the months, we've talked but we frequently go weeks without speaking. I've never taken it offensively since then because he is the one who set it up that way that we were friends. My question is this: How often to people actually go online to just make friends? It's not like we met in person and he felt less attracted to me. He went the friend route before we even met up. But it didn't really make sense to me as to why you'd match with someone on a dating site if you didn't actually find them attractive.

Submitted June 21, 2019 at 11:55PM

Is this common? I met this guy on okcupid. I knew, not to sound shallow, just from looking at his pictures and reading most of his profile that he was probably a little out of my league. Incredibly hot. Very artistic. I decided to shoot my shot, so I sent him a witty message. This was back in December. We exchanged messages over the app for a few weeks before moving into texting. The texting was never altogether flirtatious. It was friendly, but in the beginning I thought it was just assumed that we were both attracted to each other because we matched on a dating site. I also thought it would turn flirtier once we saw each other. Before we met up for the first time, I asked him if it was a date or a friendly hang because I didn't want to feel dejected if it didn't pan out the way I expected, and I made a joke by apologizing if that was awkward to ask. He was super nice about it and said it wasn't a weird thing to ask, but that he wanted to keep it as a "mutual love for movies/ platonic hang" because we were going to see a movie at the time. I was more attracted to him in person, but I felt a little let down that I was being friend-zoned before we even met. Regardless, we had a lot in common and it was fun. We met up again a few more times to see movies or grab beer and talk. I was confused on the first hang because he paid for everything, but assumed he was just a friendly guy.Ever since then, over the months, we've talked but we frequently go weeks without speaking. I've never taken it offensively since then because he is the one who set it up that way that we were friends. My question is this: How often to people actually go online to just make friends? It's not like we met in person and he felt less attracted to me. He went the friend route before we even met up. But it didn't really make sense to me as to why you'd match with someone on a dating site if you didn't actually find them attractive.