People at work think I slept with a coworker?

First thing's first: I didn't. I'm a virgin.

I, at 21, am easily the youngest person where I work. I'm also one of the only girls. It's an active, blue collar job and I mostly work with men who are at least 10 or so years older than me. For the most part, I get along with them. A lot of them are real sweethearts, and so long as you work hard and you're friendly they'll be your best friend. It's overall a great work environment.

Now, I went out a couple weeks ago with a few of the younger guys. I ended up getting pretty drunk, and then I got a ride home from one of them. I didn't know this at the time because I haven't known him very long, but apparently he's a huge womanizer. He invited me to his place but I declined, and he dropped me off at home. Now it turns out that some of the other guys saw me get a ride home from him and told people that I went home with him. Because of his reputation, people think we had sex.

A couple of the guys I'm closer with approached me and asked me about it. I'm in general a positive and hardworking girl and I think they've gotten a bit protective of me because they think the guy who gave me a ride home got me drunk so he could sleep with me. Apparently that's something he does. He was buying me drinks and I did get more drunk than I meant to, but I didn't sleep with him. Unfortunately I can be extremely awkward when it comes to subjects like this, and I was so embarrassed by the topic that I had trouble responding coherently and they thought I was lying. To be fair, I probably wouldn't have believed me either. Now they're mad at him, and the other guys I was with think I'm a liar who put them up to it, and basically the whole situation is a fiasco.

I don't have any idea how to even start to approach this situation. What should I even do? I can barely even talk about sex without feeling awkward and blushing, so how am I possibly supposed to convince my coworkers of anything?



Submitted June 23, 2019 at 12:16AM

First thing's first: I didn't. I'm a virgin.I, at 21, am easily the youngest person where I work. I'm also one of the only girls. It's an active, blue collar job and I mostly work with men who are at least 10 or so years older than me. For the most part, I get along with them. A lot of them are real sweethearts, and so long as you work hard and you're friendly they'll be your best friend. It's overall a great work environment.Now, I went out a couple weeks ago with a few of the younger guys. I ended up getting pretty drunk, and then I got a ride home from one of them. I didn't know this at the time because I haven't known him very long, but apparently he's a huge womanizer. He invited me to his place but I declined, and he dropped me off at home. Now it turns out that some of the other guys saw me get a ride home from him and told people that I went home with him. Because of his reputation, people think we had sex.A couple of the guys I'm closer with approached me and asked me about it. I'm in general a positive and hardworking girl and I think they've gotten a bit protective of me because they think the guy who gave me a ride home got me drunk so he could sleep with me. Apparently that's something he does. He was buying me drinks and I did get more drunk than I meant to, but I didn't sleep with him. Unfortunately I can be extremely awkward when it comes to subjects like this, and I was so embarrassed by the topic that I had trouble responding coherently and they thought I was lying. To be fair, I probably wouldn't have believed me either. Now they're mad at him, and the other guys I was with think I'm a liar who put them up to it, and basically the whole situation is a fiasco.I don't have any idea how to even start to approach this situation. What should I even do? I can barely even talk about sex without feeling awkward and blushing, so how am I possibly supposed to convince my coworkers of anything?
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