I've (M 21) been talking to this girl (F 18) from work for a little over two months now. Wondering if I should keep playing it cool, or should I try to be more assertive with my feelings at this point.

Hello everyone! Thanks in advance for any advice you can give. The only one I really talk to about this in depth to is my brother, so I figured I would try to get some advice from the people of reddit.

Alright, some backstory on the situation. We're both are servers at the same job, we met because she was new and didn't know how to finish her report at the end of her shift, one of the other girls from work sent her my way and said I knew what the numbers meant so I helped her out. From there on we would talk every shift we worked together and it was just fun and flirty. One of the other girls at work asked me if I wanted them to set me up with the girl I like (I didn't realize that she was cousins with the girl until after that conversation). I told her no, walked up and asked her if she wanted to go on a date myself, she said yes and gave me her number.

From that point on, we've: gone out to get ice cream, went to get dinner after work, go driving around for a couple of hours, talk and text on the phone and FaceTime, talk for hours in the parking lot after work, and more. She's been to my house once, but it wasn't a long visit because she had to be home by a certain time and we already knew about that beforehand.

We've been very open with each other even since the first date, not shying away from deep conversations about family, life, or goals. She often tells me things that she hasn't told anyone else and vice versa. We are not shy about personal space even when we are at work. She is always grabbing my arms and playfully hitting me, the usual flirty shenanigans. When things get crazy at work she helps me without me realizing it and the same goes for her. A lot of people at work ask us if we are boyfriend and girlfriend and always tease us when we are alone together.

Getting to know her has been great thus far, i'm really enjoying coming to work and seeing her walk through the doors, sounds lame, but what can I say, she's a great person who is not only gorgeous, but she's also hilarious, and has a good heart, she's always helping people when she can.

The only problem I can think of is physical intimacy. I find her physically attractive and I would be lying if I said I didn't think about her in an intimate way. From what I can tell, she probably thinks the same. There have been a few references about something sexual in our most recent conversations, nothing crazy but it's never happened before until recently. The reason why i'm asking for advice is because she broke up with her ex-boyfriend in January, she has mentioned that they were just two different people and they both agreed it wouldn't work out between them like that. Because of this, I feel like I shouldn't put too much pressure on the physical intimacy and relationship stuff, I don't want her to rush into anything she isn't ready for.

I've been thinking of taking her out on a date to a really nice restaurant in the city downtown and go walking around the fountains at night, maybe some dessert later. I would take her out sooner than later but she is not available as much at the moment because of some things going on at home. I was talking to two other girls before and while I met her, but I lost interest in them and I put my focus on her.

Blah blah blah, all in all, i'm just a random dude who likes this girl, and eventually I want to show her that I want to be more than what we are right now. That is all.

Submitted June 08, 2019 at 11:33PM

Hello everyone! Thanks in advance for any advice you can give. The only one I really talk to about this in depth to is my brother, so I figured I would try to get some advice from the people of reddit.Alright, some backstory on the situation. We're both are servers at the same job, we met because she was new and didn't know how to finish her report at the end of her shift, one of the other girls from work sent her my way and said I knew what the numbers meant so I helped her out. From there on we would talk every shift we worked together and it was just fun and flirty. One of the other girls at work asked me if I wanted them to set me up with the girl I like (I didn't realize that she was cousins with the girl until after that conversation). I told her no, walked up and asked her if she wanted to go on a date myself, she said yes and gave me her number.From that point on, we've: gone out to get ice cream, went to get dinner after work, go driving around for a couple of hours, talk and text on the phone and FaceTime, talk for hours in the parking lot after work, and more. She's been to my house once, but it wasn't a long visit because she had to be home by a certain time and we already knew about that beforehand.We've been very open with each other even since the first date, not shying away from deep conversations about family, life, or goals. She often tells me things that she hasn't told anyone else and vice versa. We are not shy about personal space even when we are at work. She is always grabbing my arms and playfully hitting me, the usual flirty shenanigans. When things get crazy at work she helps me without me realizing it and the same goes for her. A lot of people at work ask us if we are boyfriend and girlfriend and always tease us when we are alone together.Getting to know her has been great thus far, i'm really enjoying coming to work and seeing her walk through the doors, sounds lame, but what can I say, she's a great person who is not only gorgeous, but she's also hilarious, and has a good heart, she's always helping people when she can.The only problem I can think of is physical intimacy. I find her physically attractive and I would be lying if I said I didn't think about her in an intimate way. From what I can tell, she probably thinks the same. There have been a few references about something sexual in our most recent conversations, nothing crazy but it's never happened before until recently. The reason why i'm asking for advice is because she broke up with her ex-boyfriend in January, she has mentioned that they were just two different people and they both agreed it wouldn't work out between them like that. Because of this, I feel like I shouldn't put too much pressure on the physical intimacy and relationship stuff, I don't want her to rush into anything she isn't ready for.I've been thinking of taking her out on a date to a really nice restaurant in the city downtown and go walking around the fountains at night, maybe some dessert later. I would take her out sooner than later but she is not available as much at the moment because of some things going on at home. I was talking to two other girls before and while I met her, but I lost interest in them and I put my focus on her.Blah blah blah, all in all, i'm just a random dude who likes this girl, and eventually I want to show her that I want to be more than what we are right now. That is all.