Give Him Space or Act Normal

I (33f) admittedly spasmed and messed things up with a solid guy (46m). I got insecure about stuff and caused tension. Last month I said I needed time away and then I reached out to him after a few weeks. He use to call or text once a day but since we've started talking again, he has felt distant and hasn't communicated as much. We sat down and he said he's just incredibly busy between his kids and his office is crazy for the next two months. I asked if we were back to normal, more than friends, and he said yes we are. But he called to say hi once this week. I don’t want to add stress by trying to make plans if it’s truly just him being busy but I’m worried there’s still tension. Any advice on how to proceed? Act like everything is normal. Call a few times a week, text every other day, do some nice things for him. Send nudes haha OR drop lunch once a week (something I typically do) but only text once a week and just hang back and give him space. thanks :)

Submitted June 08, 2019 at 11:45PM

I (33f) admittedly spasmed and messed things up with a solid guy (46m). I got insecure about stuff and caused tension. Last month I said I needed time away and then I reached out to him after a few weeks. He use to call or text once a day but since we've started talking again, he has felt distant and hasn't communicated as much. We sat down and he said he's just incredibly busy between his kids and his office is crazy for the next two months. I asked if we were back to normal, more than friends, and he said yes we are. But he called to say hi once this week. I don’t want to add stress by trying to make plans if it’s truly just him being busy but I’m worried there’s still tension. Any advice on how to proceed? Act like everything is normal. Call a few times a week, text every other day, do some nice things for him. Send nudes haha OR drop lunch once a week (something I typically do) but only text once a week and just hang back and give him space. thanks :)