No kiss after 7 months. Feeling selfish. Early 20's M and F

Maybe I’m being selfish. I don't even know anymore. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I’ve been in three relationships before so of course I’ve had experience with kissing. However my current girlfriend has never been in a relationship before.  We were friends for 3 years before we became a couple. Of course when I told her that I liked her and she felt the same way I was ecstatic since she was a really good friend and I was excited to have my best friend as a girlfriend. I knew she wasn’t experienced so she was the first girl I decided to ask beforehand if I could kiss her. She said no because she was nervous. Of course I was understanding I knew it would take a while especially with how shy she is. I’ve only kissed her on the cheek, hand and forehead so far. She seemed okay with that.

After 4 months I suggested that I be able to kiss her when I thought would be appropriate and just start off with a peck. She said she’d be okay with that. During the next 2 months we weren’t able to go out or see each other for one reason or another. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was her. Then in the past week she told me something happened in her family. The same day she also retracted our agreement of me being able to kiss her when I thought it would be a good time saying that she didn’t feel ready. At the time I reassured her it was fine and at the time I really did mean it. I cared more about her well being. I was disappointed of course, but I understood.

However, days after she told me that now i’m feeling even more disappointed. A feeling of maybe theres something wrong with me or maybe she doesn't like me as much as I like her. When trying to think about it rationally I remember the reasoning and try to reassure myself that theres a reason. However, sometimes these thoughts come back. I don’t want to feel like this, but I can’t help it. I know she's not in the right state of mind. I know she's having family problems and that's her main focus right now. I know it probably isn’t me, but I can’t help to feel like it is. I didn’t push too much or ask when it might be able to happen, but man I can’t help this feeling. I haven’t told her any of this due to the circumstances.

I know I sound super selfish here. I know I do. I’ll probably be flamed for this. I guess I want some sense put into me. Or maybe helpful suggestions. I’d really appreciate it.

TL;DR: I feel selfish with how long its taken for our first kiss to happen.

Submitted December 07, 2021 at 01:13AM

Maybe I’m being selfish. I don't even know anymore. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. I’ve been in three relationships before so of course I’ve had experience with kissing. However my current girlfriend has never been in a relationship before.  We were friends for 3 years before we became a couple. Of course when I told her that I liked her and she felt the same way I was ecstatic since she was a really good friend and I was excited to have my best friend as a girlfriend. I knew she wasn’t experienced so she was the first girl I decided to ask beforehand if I could kiss her. She said no because she was nervous. Of course I was understanding I knew it would take a while especially with how shy she is. I’ve only kissed her on the cheek, hand and forehead so far. She seemed okay with that.After 4 months I suggested that I be able to kiss her when I thought would be appropriate and just start off with a peck. She said she’d be okay with that. During the next 2 months we weren’t able to go out or see each other for one reason or another. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was her. Then in the past week she told me something happened in her family. The same day she also retracted our agreement of me being able to kiss her when I thought it would be a good time saying that she didn’t feel ready. At the time I reassured her it was fine and at the time I really did mean it. I cared more about her well being. I was disappointed of course, but I understood.However, days after she told me that now i’m feeling even more disappointed. A feeling of maybe theres something wrong with me or maybe she doesn't like me as much as I like her. When trying to think about it rationally I remember the reasoning and try to reassure myself that theres a reason. However, sometimes these thoughts come back. I don’t want to feel like this, but I can’t help it. I know she's not in the right state of mind. I know she's having family problems and that's her main focus right now. I know it probably isn’t me, but I can’t help to feel like it is. I didn’t push too much or ask when it might be able to happen, but man I can’t help this feeling. I haven’t told her any of this due to the circumstances.I know I sound super selfish here. I know I do. I’ll probably be flamed for this. I guess I want some sense put into me. Or maybe helpful suggestions. I’d really appreciate it.TL;DR: I feel selfish with how long its taken for our first kiss to happen.