Going on a date to a gym with a nerdy girl who is not fit, help?

I’m going on a date this week with a girl I met through mutual friends. Imo she is the perfect mix of cute and hot and she sometimes goes to the gym. So one time she gave me her number and asked if we could work out together sometime. She was my crush the first time I saw her so this felt like I won the lottery (I almost never have a crush on anybody) She is a nerdy laidback girl.

The thing is i’m a fitness fanatic. I do hundreds of pushups and situps every day. I have ran several marathons this year, I lift a lot, I practice martial arts and i’m very muscular (low bodyfat, sixpack and all). I know everything about fitness. I’m freaking out about 3 things:

  1. How do I make her comfortable and not come off as a shallow know it all gymrat jerk? I feel like i will intimidate her

  2. How does this go down? I’m in my mid 20’s but I have never dated in my life. I have had 2 relationships (5 and 2 years) but we woke up drunk next to eachother barely remembering anything and decided to have a relationship (which were great). I have never actually dated like this before. Any good tips?

  3. How do you find common ground? I mean we are both university students (i’m in med school, she is in business uni) but that’s it. We’re not even from the same country. She is more into anime, gaming and drawing while i’m watching people get beat up in ufc.

I know she likes me and I like her a lot. If she looks me in the eyes my iq drops 60 points and I start wordvomiting, that much. All advice is very appreciated



Submitted December 07, 2021 at 12:00AM

I’m going on a date this week with a girl I met through mutual friends. Imo she is the perfect mix of cute and hot and she sometimes goes to the gym. So one time she gave me her number and asked if we could work out together sometime. She was my crush the first time I saw her so this felt like I won the lottery (I almost never have a crush on anybody) She is a nerdy laidback girl.The thing is i’m a fitness fanatic. I do hundreds of pushups and situps every day. I have ran several marathons this year, I lift a lot, I practice martial arts and i’m very muscular (low bodyfat, sixpack and all). I know everything about fitness. I’m freaking out about 3 things:How do I make her comfortable and not come off as a shallow know it all gymrat jerk? I feel like i will intimidate herHow does this go down? I’m in my mid 20’s but I have never dated in my life. I have had 2 relationships (5 and 2 years) but we woke up drunk next to eachother barely remembering anything and decided to have a relationship (which were great). I have never actually dated like this before. Any good tips?How do you find common ground? I mean we are both university students (i’m in med school, she is in business uni) but that’s it. We’re not even from the same country. She is more into anime, gaming and drawing while i’m watching people get beat up in ufc.I know she likes me and I like her a lot. If she looks me in the eyes my iq drops 60 points and I start wordvomiting, that much. All advice is very appreciated
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