Why does a guy leave right after having morning sex? What is this relationship

So there's a guy I've seen for almost over ten months since the end of the last year. We'd casually had sex as the lockdown happened and had to be stuck inside. From time to time he asked me about deeper things for instance how people start a relationship in my original culture etc, but back then I was intimidated going further from it and I assumed he either. And then he once gave me small gifts but I thought it wasn't more than a casual thing since we were basically meeting for having sex and ending up having sex. It kept like that for about 4months, then we had a trip together and we started talking about having a long distance relationship cus I had to leave back to my country for quite a while. Back then he knew that I've seen other guys a bit and seemed hurt but I discovered he was also chatting with other girls on apps and wouldve probably had casually met them or more so even the while we were together. Anyways we had these walls to each other and he said he felt that too, so I asked him if he was up for a relationship and he said that is unfair for me cus I'm way younger than him (about 7years younger) and would get lots of opportunities to meet other young boys but let's see and try it if we both still had feelings to each other even though we got apart longer than two weeks. I thought it was an absurd excuse and he was just bringing up excuses cus he didn't consider us as a thing. So I started packing my feeling and said farewell to him inside myself at the airport. He then started chasing me while I was away ignoring him, then said he felt bad about how he treated me and how deep his feelings were and how he'd like to meet me again and take me on a date and he would come wherever I settle down etc... I said I'm not sure if we can make it work but he always tried to reassure me. But we gradually started texting each other once or twice a week (9.5/10 started by his attempts) Anyways so we kept in contact for 7months then I settled down to another country nearby his. There was a bit of drama before we met tho, he was very assertive saying he's gonna come and see me right after I arrive but then after I actually came here, he went like saying I'm busy with work so can't come over yet. Anyways he came visiting here but the reason he was coming over was his sis lives here and he was gonna take care of her baby for a few weeks so they came together after having a family trip. So I felt like I'm just a person here when it's convenient to him. Anyways we finally met last friday, and I started saying how our conversation and sharing feelings have lacked and I'm tired of this ambiguity for this long time. And asked him if he considers me seriously, then he said yes, but he didn't know that I was having the feeling that much since he was always the one who tried to keep in touch. And he thought I'm no longer interested in him cus i was settled down in a new city and started ignoring him. So I said I've had a strong feeling but restrained myself until we meet in real life again and have a proper talk. So I asked him if he want a relationship then he said the same thing as before it's unfair for you and we are gonna be in a long distance relationship again etc. And then he said "You are about to dump me, can we just enjoy our company at least I'm here for a few weeks?" and then I said "it's not gonna happen that way anymore. it sounds like you wanna have fun for a few weeks while you're here. I was ready to end up things if I still can't make it clear. It's been almost a year and I've had enough and we don't trust each other so it's also problematic" So he said if I feel like that I don't have to have sex with him. And the convo ended up like let's try to make it work since we have feelings for each other.. and had a date during the night and again we ended up having sex at mine. Sorry I know it was very long til get to the real point. So, we had sex during the night and slept cuddling, and then the next morning had sex again. And then he almost instantly left saying that he needs to leave because of his sister since she doesn't really eat and he needs to cook for her...but asked me if I'd like to come over his sister’s place tomorrow which was Sunday, So I said okay ask your sis and let me know. And then he left. So I was waiting until he lets me know and then he texted me that night but didn't ask me to come over but just asking how I'm doing and that was it. So I asked on sunday 'so I assume that we aren't meeting today, are we' and then he said it's not a great time to come since the baby is sick and they'll go to an emergency room if she doesn't get better. I do understand the situation of course and I know he always has reasons...But I just can't stop feeling like I'm just being used for sex, also I've found that a pack of a condom he left at my place was already unpacked before we use it cus 3 of them were already used which means he had sex with someone other than me at some point. (Not sure about when but during the time we were apart) I’m not even sure if I’m allowed to be mad about this since we weren't and aren't in a proper relationship. And I just feel like he just had to be here to take care of his family and I was just here as well for his convenience’s sake, he just enjoys my company but nothing more than that. These all things have been driving me crazy for almost a year. Am I the weird one here, What do you think about this ridiculous relationship, should I end this up?

Submitted November 08, 2021 at 12:14AM

So there's a guy I've seen for almost over ten months since the end of the last year. We'd casually had sex as the lockdown happened and had to be stuck inside. From time to time he asked me about deeper things for instance how people start a relationship in my original culture etc, but back then I was intimidated going further from it and I assumed he either. And then he once gave me small gifts but I thought it wasn't more than a casual thing since we were basically meeting for having sex and ending up having sex. It kept like that for about 4months, then we had a trip together and we started talking about having a long distance relationship cus I had to leave back to my country for quite a while. Back then he knew that I've seen other guys a bit and seemed hurt but I discovered he was also chatting with other girls on apps and wouldve probably had casually met them or more so even the while we were together. Anyways we had these walls to each other and he said he felt that too, so I asked him if he was up for a relationship and he said that is unfair for me cus I'm way younger than him (about 7years younger) and would get lots of opportunities to meet other young boys but let's see and try it if we both still had feelings to each other even though we got apart longer than two weeks. I thought it was an absurd excuse and he was just bringing up excuses cus he didn't consider us as a thing. So I started packing my feeling and said farewell to him inside myself at the airport. He then started chasing me while I was away ignoring him, then said he felt bad about how he treated me and how deep his feelings were and how he'd like to meet me again and take me on a date and he would come wherever I settle down etc... I said I'm not sure if we can make it work but he always tried to reassure me. But we gradually started texting each other once or twice a week (9.5/10 started by his attempts) Anyways so we kept in contact for 7months then I settled down to another country nearby his. There was a bit of drama before we met tho, he was very assertive saying he's gonna come and see me right after I arrive but then after I actually came here, he went like saying I'm busy with work so can't come over yet. Anyways he came visiting here but the reason he was coming over was his sis lives here and he was gonna take care of her baby for a few weeks so they came together after having a family trip. So I felt like I'm just a person here when it's convenient to him. Anyways we finally met last friday, and I started saying how our conversation and sharing feelings have lacked and I'm tired of this ambiguity for this long time. And asked him if he considers me seriously, then he said yes, but he didn't know that I was having the feeling that much since he was always the one who tried to keep in touch. And he thought I'm no longer interested in him cus i was settled down in a new city and started ignoring him. So I said I've had a strong feeling but restrained myself until we meet in real life again and have a proper talk. So I asked him if he want a relationship then he said the same thing as before it's unfair for you and we are gonna be in a long distance relationship again etc. And then he said "You are about to dump me, can we just enjoy our company at least I'm here for a few weeks?" and then I said "it's not gonna happen that way anymore. it sounds like you wanna have fun for a few weeks while you're here. I was ready to end up things if I still can't make it clear. It's been almost a year and I've had enough and we don't trust each other so it's also problematic" So he said if I feel like that I don't have to have sex with him. And the convo ended up like let's try to make it work since we have feelings for each other.. and had a date during the night and again we ended up having sex at mine. Sorry I know it was very long til get to the real point. So, we had sex during the night and slept cuddling, and then the next morning had sex again. And then he almost instantly left saying that he needs to leave because of his sister since she doesn't really eat and he needs to cook for her...but asked me if I'd like to come over his sister’s place tomorrow which was Sunday, So I said okay ask your sis and let me know. And then he left. So I was waiting until he lets me know and then he texted me that night but didn't ask me to come over but just asking how I'm doing and that was it. So I asked on sunday 'so I assume that we aren't meeting today, are we' and then he said it's not a great time to come since the baby is sick and they'll go to an emergency room if she doesn't get better. I do understand the situation of course and I know he always has reasons...But I just can't stop feeling like I'm just being used for sex, also I've found that a pack of a condom he left at my place was already unpacked before we use it cus 3 of them were already used which means he had sex with someone other than me at some point. (Not sure about when but during the time we were apart) I’m not even sure if I’m allowed to be mad about this since we weren't and aren't in a proper relationship. And I just feel like he just had to be here to take care of his family and I was just here as well for his convenience’s sake, he just enjoys my company but nothing more than that. These all things have been driving me crazy for almost a year. Am I the weird one here, What do you think about this ridiculous relationship, should I end this up?