Gf left me for another guy but still messages me. Why? And why can't I bring myself to block her?

Gf of 2 years left me unexpectedly for another guy. I was/am deeply in love with her. She crushed me completely by doing this. I hate this feeling, she messages but its always mindless banter, not the deep conversations that initially attracted me to her. I'm left feeling empty, heartbroken, and confused daily. As soon as she's finished messaging me a few pointless messages, she's right back chatting him online (even now as I write this).

She led me to believe we would be married with kids by the end of 2022 and now this. I want to let go completely but I'm struggling. I went NC but broke it after a few days of her messaging. I guess deep down I just want her to come back, everyday she's away it breaks my spirit more and more. I feel so empty inside, she was also my best friend so it feels hurtful on two levels. I love this girl and would do anything for her, but it's clear now that she doesn't carry the same unwavering love for me that I have for her.

I didn't take the news of her leaving me for another guy well which led to lots of arguments and her placing blame on me with the harshest of words. Her harsh words keep replaying in my mind especially when I see her online chatting him for hours after leaving me on seen for hours.

Why does she continue to keep contact? Is she gonna ghost me eventually? How can I break my deep attachment to her, I've been keeping busy but I always find myself thinking of her and even being tormented in my sleep with vivid dreams of her. Harsh advice is welcomed, maybe I need that idk. Thanks



Submitted November 08, 2021 at 12:06AM

Gf of 2 years left me unexpectedly for another guy. I was/am deeply in love with her. She crushed me completely by doing this. I hate this feeling, she messages but its always mindless banter, not the deep conversations that initially attracted me to her. I'm left feeling empty, heartbroken, and confused daily. As soon as she's finished messaging me a few pointless messages, she's right back chatting him online (even now as I write this).She led me to believe we would be married with kids by the end of 2022 and now this. I want to let go completely but I'm struggling. I went NC but broke it after a few days of her messaging. I guess deep down I just want her to come back, everyday she's away it breaks my spirit more and more. I feel so empty inside, she was also my best friend so it feels hurtful on two levels. I love this girl and would do anything for her, but it's clear now that she doesn't carry the same unwavering love for me that I have for her.I didn't take the news of her leaving me for another guy well which led to lots of arguments and her placing blame on me with the harshest of words. Her harsh words keep replaying in my mind especially when I see her online chatting him for hours after leaving me on seen for hours.Why does she continue to keep contact? Is she gonna ghost me eventually? How can I break my deep attachment to her, I've been keeping busy but I always find myself thinking of her and even being tormented in my sleep with vivid dreams of her. Harsh advice is welcomed, maybe I need that idk. Thanks
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