Should I stop to see my fwb?

I officially have a fwb since one week. We saw each other last week, spend the night at his place. I wanted to do sexting with him (we did one time last week while he was at work). I panicked bc he didn’t replied fast to my message. I saw that he actually read it hours after. We only talk when it’s needed (when we are horny or about to meet each other). I was about to send him a message to tell him « Okay, I get it, you don’t want to have anything to do with me anymore, but please I’d like to get my item back. After that, I will never talk to you again I promise ». Yes, I forgot my item last time I was at his place, and I told him a couple of days ago if he found it and he told me yes. I tried to be wiser and tell myself he might be really busy today, maybe he met customers, had meetings, spend time afterwork at a bar with his workmates or friends (he’s really outgoing). Maybe he finished work late….

Please don’t tell me about his wife or gf, he’s officially single and he is not looking for a real relationship. I am not too, since I have to heal from social anxiety, I have huge trust issues when it comes to men. I actually wanted to be fwb with him bc I wanted to explore my sexuality with a person with who I feel safe and I’m attracted to. I thought that sex could help me to be more confident, accept and learn how to embrace my body. I admit that I have some needs. Except I want to do it with only one person until I heal and find someone with who I could be in a real relationship. It’s been 5/6 hours since last time he saw my message (it’s 1AM where I live), no reply.

No, I am not in love with him, I don’t know him well yet.

With what happened should I stop this fwb relationship. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Also don’t tell me, that famous phrase « he’s not that into you », I don’t expect him to be my husband or something.

Maybe I should give up on any kind of relationship with a guy, bc I don’t understand them, I don’t trust them. I have to accept that the only contact I will have with them is for work. I promised myself to never go on a dating app (should I call it hooking up app)

Submitted November 23, 2021 at 12:11AM

I officially have a fwb since one week. We saw each other last week, spend the night at his place. I wanted to do sexting with him (we did one time last week while he was at work). I panicked bc he didn’t replied fast to my message. I saw that he actually read it hours after. We only talk when it’s needed (when we are horny or about to meet each other). I was about to send him a message to tell him « Okay, I get it, you don’t want to have anything to do with me anymore, but please I’d like to get my item back. After that, I will never talk to you again I promise ». Yes, I forgot my item last time I was at his place, and I told him a couple of days ago if he found it and he told me yes. I tried to be wiser and tell myself he might be really busy today, maybe he met customers, had meetings, spend time afterwork at a bar with his workmates or friends (he’s really outgoing). Maybe he finished work late….Please don’t tell me about his wife or gf, he’s officially single and he is not looking for a real relationship. I am not too, since I have to heal from social anxiety, I have huge trust issues when it comes to men. I actually wanted to be fwb with him bc I wanted to explore my sexuality with a person with who I feel safe and I’m attracted to. I thought that sex could help me to be more confident, accept and learn how to embrace my body. I admit that I have some needs. Except I want to do it with only one person until I heal and find someone with who I could be in a real relationship. It’s been 5/6 hours since last time he saw my message (it’s 1AM where I live), no reply.No, I am not in love with him, I don’t know him well yet.With what happened should I stop this fwb relationship. What would you do if you were in my shoes?Also don’t tell me, that famous phrase « he’s not that into you », I don’t expect him to be my husband or something.Maybe I should give up on any kind of relationship with a guy, bc I don’t understand them, I don’t trust them. I have to accept that the only contact I will have with them is for work. I promised myself to never go on a dating app (should I call it hooking up app)