Is sex in a serious long-term relationship supposed to get better with time? What if it’s not the stereotypical relationship with the guy having a higher sex drive?

Ok, so I will watch videos or read things about honeymoon phase sex and how awesome it is but what if I never had that in my relationship? Or I’ll read about increasing desire in a long term relationship as a women and trying to take initiative but I feel like I can’t because I’m the higher drive partner and it might not excite him. Or can’t try to bring up too many new things because he won’t be into it or he will be pressured. I’ve also brought up the things I want and most aren’t too out there, but some things make him uncomfortable(like wanting him to make noise).

It’s just hard for me because I just really want to feel desired and physical touch is my primary love language. Maybe it was better in the honeymoon phase but now I want more and just feel unsatisfied by sex. It’s not like he doesn’t want sex, as he will initiate most of the time and sometimes we will do it almost every day(on vacations together). Right now we are long distance so it doesn’t happen much anyways. Maybe I just expect too much and sex actually is usually boring and meh. Maybe I just masturbate too much and need to cut out porn entirely( I am working on that currently).

Submitted November 22, 2021 at 11:39PM

Ok, so I will watch videos or read things about honeymoon phase sex and how awesome it is but what if I never had that in my relationship? Or I’ll read about increasing desire in a long term relationship as a women and trying to take initiative but I feel like I can’t because I’m the higher drive partner and it might not excite him. Or can’t try to bring up too many new things because he won’t be into it or he will be pressured. I’ve also brought up the things I want and most aren’t too out there, but some things make him uncomfortable(like wanting him to make noise).It’s just hard for me because I just really want to feel desired and physical touch is my primary love language. Maybe it was better in the honeymoon phase but now I want more and just feel unsatisfied by sex. It’s not like he doesn’t want sex, as he will initiate most of the time and sometimes we will do it almost every day(on vacations together). Right now we are long distance so it doesn’t happen much anyways. Maybe I just expect too much and sex actually is usually boring and meh. Maybe I just masturbate too much and need to cut out porn entirely( I am working on that currently).