Reciprocating oral sex in relationship

My (24M) gf (24F) and I have been together over a year and everything is great. We work well together. However, over the past few months she hasn’t been open to reciprocating oral sex. She used to boast about how much she loved giving head and how good at it she was. Maybe TMI, but during BJs, she would lay down on her stomach and use the friction from the bed to turn her on, which allowed her to finish while giving a BJ. When we have sex, we always make sure to make each other finish. For her, that usually means I perform oral sex on her; for me, that usually means PIV sex.

The next part is where the issue lies.

For me, oral sex is a huge turn on, and I definitely don’t mind performing it on her either because it turns her on so much. Turning her on turns me on. She says that I turn her on like nobody else before, and it’s because I make an actual effort to make sure she finishes… which is great - she has told me that not many of the other guys she has been with have been great at giving oral sex to make sure she finishes. For her, “learning” how to finish while giving a blowjob was necessary to fulfill her sexual needs (not just my words, she has said this to me before). With me essentially being the only guy willing to perform oral sex on her, she no longer wants to perform oral sex on me (because she no longer needs it to finish). I ask for oral sex roughly 25% of the time we have sex and she declines probably 80% of the time.

She obviously has autonomy over her body and should only ever do what she’s comfortable with during sex, but I also still enjoy blowjobs and when it comes down to it, I primarily perform oral sex on her because she enjoys it. It is a little bit frustrating that she doesn’t want to do it for me. I’ve talked to her and she only says that I should take it as a compliment that she doesn’t want to give me BJs because it means that I turn her on so much.

Any advice helps

TLDR: gf doesn’t enjoy giving BJs anymore because she used to use BJs as a way to make herself finish by laying on her stomach and creating friction on her clit with the bed. With me being one of the only guys to consistently be willing to eat her out, she no longer “needs” BJs to finish during sex and doesn’t want to perform the act on me (even though I consistently perform oral sex on her). However, I also still enjoy BJs and I’ve talked to her about it with no success. Any advice would help

Submitted November 06, 2021 at 12:28AM

My (24M) gf (24F) and I have been together over a year and everything is great. We work well together. However, over the past few months she hasn’t been open to reciprocating oral sex. She used to boast about how much she loved giving head and how good at it she was. Maybe TMI, but during BJs, she would lay down on her stomach and use the friction from the bed to turn her on, which allowed her to finish while giving a BJ. When we have sex, we always make sure to make each other finish. For her, that usually means I perform oral sex on her; for me, that usually means PIV sex.The next part is where the issue lies.For me, oral sex is a huge turn on, and I definitely don’t mind performing it on her either because it turns her on so much. Turning her on turns me on. She says that I turn her on like nobody else before, and it’s because I make an actual effort to make sure she finishes… which is great - she has told me that not many of the other guys she has been with have been great at giving oral sex to make sure she finishes. For her, “learning” how to finish while giving a blowjob was necessary to fulfill her sexual needs (not just my words, she has said this to me before). With me essentially being the only guy willing to perform oral sex on her, she no longer wants to perform oral sex on me (because she no longer needs it to finish). I ask for oral sex roughly 25% of the time we have sex and she declines probably 80% of the time.She obviously has autonomy over her body and should only ever do what she’s comfortable with during sex, but I also still enjoy blowjobs and when it comes down to it, I primarily perform oral sex on her because she enjoys it. It is a little bit frustrating that she doesn’t want to do it for me. I’ve talked to her and she only says that I should take it as a compliment that she doesn’t want to give me BJs because it means that I turn her on so much.Any advice helpsTLDR: gf doesn’t enjoy giving BJs anymore because she used to use BJs as a way to make herself finish by laying on her stomach and creating friction on her clit with the bed. With me being one of the only guys to consistently be willing to eat her out, she no longer “needs” BJs to finish during sex and doesn’t want to perform the act on me (even though I consistently perform oral sex on her). However, I also still enjoy BJs and I’ve talked to her about it with no success. Any advice would help