I like being manhandled but not in a sexual way…

I’m sorry if this is a bad sub for this, I really couldn’t figure out where to talk about it. I’m a very small gay man and I’ve always liked being pushed, pulled, and “helpless”. Ever since I was a kid and my friend group would do a mass role playing game (like secret agents, soldiers, anything we could copy from a game or movie etc) outside or on the playground, I always liked playing the role of someone who needed to be protected or saved. In middle school, when we had that obligatory dance learning week, there was always too many guys compared to girl and so we would have to dance together. One of my dance partners was a baseball guy. He once grabbed my wrists and swung me around aggressively, and I swear to god that was my gay awakening. In highschool I always liked it when other guys (especially guys that were attractive), would roughhouse with me or put their arms around my shoulders. And since I’m so small, guys would think it’s funny to pick me up in a teasing way, not knowing I secretly really liked it. Now as an adult I still like to manhandled, but never in a violent or aggressive way that would hurt me. However, none of this has ever been in a sexual way. I don’t want to be dragged around or shoved during sex, it really makes me feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Most kinks or fetishes that involve a dom/sub relationship also translate into sex from what I’ve seen and heard, but for me it doesn’t and I really don’t know why.

Submitted October 09, 2021 at 11:54PM

I’m sorry if this is a bad sub for this, I really couldn’t figure out where to talk about it. I’m a very small gay man and I’ve always liked being pushed, pulled, and “helpless”. Ever since I was a kid and my friend group would do a mass role playing game (like secret agents, soldiers, anything we could copy from a game or movie etc) outside or on the playground, I always liked playing the role of someone who needed to be protected or saved. In middle school, when we had that obligatory dance learning week, there was always too many guys compared to girl and so we would have to dance together. One of my dance partners was a baseball guy. He once grabbed my wrists and swung me around aggressively, and I swear to god that was my gay awakening. In highschool I always liked it when other guys (especially guys that were attractive), would roughhouse with me or put their arms around my shoulders. And since I’m so small, guys would think it’s funny to pick me up in a teasing way, not knowing I secretly really liked it. Now as an adult I still like to manhandled, but never in a violent or aggressive way that would hurt me. However, none of this has ever been in a sexual way. I don’t want to be dragged around or shoved during sex, it really makes me feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Most kinks or fetishes that involve a dom/sub relationship also translate into sex from what I’ve seen and heard, but for me it doesn’t and I really don’t know why.