A girl that I kissed the other day told me that I'm moving too fast with her and that she doesn't want a relationship, when I don't even want be her boyfriend in the first place. Is it over with her? (15F) (16M)

(tdlr at the end)So basically, last week, a girl started to talk to me on instagram, and we quickly became friends, so we decided to hang out, everything went well and we ended up kissing. We hung out again and we kissed, a lot, and everything went well too (or so I thought). That same day I had to go out of the town she lives in until this friday, which meant that we could only talk online, and everything was still ok. But days went by and i started to notice that she was taking waay to long to respond and or directly ignoring me, which gave me lots of anxiety because of not nowing what was going on, and because I really like to talk to her.

So I got tired of that and this morning I decided to just ask her what was going on (not in a confrontational way), she replied saying that she has not been paying attention to her phone lately because of multiple reasons, which I found completly valid. But then, to my surprise, she started saying that I'm going too fast with her and, that she didn't want to have a relationship (because of a dipshit that traumatized her), and why we should stop talking if we want different things, then she started to talk about the last time we hung out, and how she didn't liked that I kissed her waay too much (which is true) and that she didn't liked that I ocaccionaly say "I like you" to her, because she felt preassured or some shit (which I wasn't even serious about). I barely remember the other things she said, but basically she didn't like that I was romantic to her (which I only did when we kissed, because yeah surprise, you are supposed to, and I tried to never do this online, because you can end up being annoying), and that she felt like I only want to hang out with her to give her kisses.

This really caught me off guard (because she was the one that wanted to kiss, do sexual stuff and hold hands in the first place, and I knew about her trauma so I really tried to not be insistent), and also, because I wasn't prepared for this and because she started to talk about sensitive stuff about her, I only responded dumb shit that lead to nowhere else to more misunderstanding and didn't make my point clear (didn't reacted with insults or anything), plus she seemed to don't care when I tried to tell her that why would I fall in love within a week, and that I don't want a relationship neither.

I don't remember really well but the last message she sent was the equivalent to an "ok your right" (I deleted the chat by accident lmao), and I haven't responded since, so idk if I can just talk to her about this after like 12 hours, and I don't even know if she would give a shit about it. Because, everything she told me seemed to be said like off the chest and like if she was tired of me being affectionate to her. (I'm just assuming, and this might not be true)

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I really like being friends with her, but she seemed a little bit annoyed/tired of my behaviour, like if I was obssesive or some shit, and the fact that this is a misunderstanding pisses me off. So the questions are...

Is it over with her? Should I just say hi or something, and try to continue our friendship like nothing happened? When should I try to talk to her again? (should I give her some space or something?) How can I tell her that I don't want a relationship with her neither, without being a dick about it? (I really would never do, multiple reasons)

TL;DR: I (16M) met a girl online (15F), we hung out, kissed, did sexual stuff in public, I went out of town, suddenly she is not responding to my messages and or takes hours to do so, couple days later (this morning) I asked her why, she gives a reason, then talks about how im going too fast with her, and that she doesn't want a relationship, big misunderstanding (I haven't even tried to), didn't know how to react and didn't make my point clear. We haven't talked since (she was the last message), and I think it's over with her, which sucks (watch the questions I left up too). All of this within a week or so.

Submitted October 09, 2021 at 11:56PM

(tdlr at the end)So basically, last week, a girl started to talk to me on instagram, and we quickly became friends, so we decided to hang out, everything went well and we ended up kissing. We hung out again and we kissed, a lot, and everything went well too (or so I thought). That same day I had to go out of the town she lives in until this friday, which meant that we could only talk online, and everything was still ok. But days went by and i started to notice that she was taking waay to long to respond and or directly ignoring me, which gave me lots of anxiety because of not nowing what was going on, and because I really like to talk to her.So I got tired of that and this morning I decided to just ask her what was going on (not in a confrontational way), she replied saying that she has not been paying attention to her phone lately because of multiple reasons, which I found completly valid. But then, to my surprise, she started saying that I'm going too fast with her and, that she didn't want to have a relationship (because of a dipshit that traumatized her), and why we should stop talking if we want different things, then she started to talk about the last time we hung out, and how she didn't liked that I kissed her waay too much (which is true) and that she didn't liked that I ocaccionaly say "I like you" to her, because she felt preassured or some shit (which I wasn't even serious about). I barely remember the other things she said, but basically she didn't like that I was romantic to her (which I only did when we kissed, because yeah surprise, you are supposed to, and I tried to never do this online, because you can end up being annoying), and that she felt like I only want to hang out with her to give her kisses.This really caught me off guard (because she was the one that wanted to kiss, do sexual stuff and hold hands in the first place, and I knew about her trauma so I really tried to not be insistent), and also, because I wasn't prepared for this and because she started to talk about sensitive stuff about her, I only responded dumb shit that lead to nowhere else to more misunderstanding and didn't make my point clear (didn't reacted with insults or anything), plus she seemed to don't care when I tried to tell her that why would I fall in love within a week, and that I don't want a relationship neither.I don't remember really well but the last message she sent was the equivalent to an "ok your right" (I deleted the chat by accident lmao), and I haven't responded since, so idk if I can just talk to her about this after like 12 hours, and I don't even know if she would give a shit about it. Because, everything she told me seemed to be said like off the chest and like if she was tired of me being affectionate to her. (I'm just assuming, and this might not be true)​I really like being friends with her, but she seemed a little bit annoyed/tired of my behaviour, like if I was obssesive or some shit, and the fact that this is a misunderstanding pisses me off. So the questions are...Is it over with her? Should I just say hi or something, and try to continue our friendship like nothing happened? When should I try to talk to her again? (should I give her some space or something?) How can I tell her that I don't want a relationship with her neither, without being a dick about it? (I really would never do, multiple reasons)TL;DR: I (16M) met a girl online (15F), we hung out, kissed, did sexual stuff in public, I went out of town, suddenly she is not responding to my messages and or takes hours to do so, couple days later (this morning) I asked her why, she gives a reason, then talks about how im going too fast with her, and that she doesn't want a relationship, big misunderstanding (I haven't even tried to), didn't know how to react and didn't make my point clear. We haven't talked since (she was the last message), and I think it's over with her, which sucks (watch the questions I left up too). All of this within a week or so.