I'm just so very tired of his nagging. More than a year into marriage and we're in a rut.

My husband has a very high sex drive, and maybe I should've seen this coming, I dunno. We dated for 3 years during which the sex was great and plentiful. In hindsight, I realized how much he dragged me to his level instead of meeting me halfway and I realized that I was compromising for his sake. But we were in love and I didn't want to be one of those wives who stops intimacy after marriage.

I got a couple of promotions and now I have an insanely stressful work life. Remote work during the pandemic hasn't been helpful whatsoever. I think it's the stress that has got my lower sex drive even lower. We went from sex almost daily before marriage to at least 2 times a week. In the beginning, I made up for it by offering him blowjobs if he liked. It was faster and fun for me.

But lately, even when I'm tired, it's becoming an expectation that is just frustrating. He's always horny, he's always very intimate even if I'm not in the mood, and then he pouts and nags, and just acts like a disappointed puppy. He spent nearly a whole day being curt because I told him to do some chores and just joked maybe we'll have some fun after but then I got into a work fire fighting mode and the night was ruined. He said I owed him a BJ! I felt so shitty, like some woman of the night he paid for?? What the hell?

Are we in a rut? Am I letting stress get to me? Is it a healthy marriage when we went from daily sex to twice a week to once a week now, and me giving him regular head is a thing he just expects otherwise he's gonna pout? GRRh, this is so frustrating.

Submitted September 23, 2021 at 12:41AM

My husband has a very high sex drive, and maybe I should've seen this coming, I dunno. We dated for 3 years during which the sex was great and plentiful. In hindsight, I realized how much he dragged me to his level instead of meeting me halfway and I realized that I was compromising for his sake. But we were in love and I didn't want to be one of those wives who stops intimacy after marriage.I got a couple of promotions and now I have an insanely stressful work life. Remote work during the pandemic hasn't been helpful whatsoever. I think it's the stress that has got my lower sex drive even lower. We went from sex almost daily before marriage to at least 2 times a week. In the beginning, I made up for it by offering him blowjobs if he liked. It was faster and fun for me.But lately, even when I'm tired, it's becoming an expectation that is just frustrating. He's always horny, he's always very intimate even if I'm not in the mood, and then he pouts and nags, and just acts like a disappointed puppy. He spent nearly a whole day being curt because I told him to do some chores and just joked maybe we'll have some fun after but then I got into a work fire fighting mode and the night was ruined. He said I owed him a BJ! I felt so shitty, like some woman of the night he paid for?? What the hell?Are we in a rut? Am I letting stress get to me? Is it a healthy marriage when we went from daily sex to twice a week to once a week now, and me giving him regular head is a thing he just expects otherwise he's gonna pout? GRRh, this is so frustrating.