Just ended it with a guy I was dating for 4 months. Need advice

I met a guy back in April. We're both from different states. We began talking every single night on the phone for 4 months. We've video chatted as well. I asked him what's the deal with us after a month. He told me that he's not invested in any other woman. He isn't on any of his dating apps anymore and can't focus on any other woman when he's really into me

Anyway months passed. We're still talking every night for hours. I won't lie there were some things I wasn't ok with. I won't go into detail of allll the other things here as I don't want to make this too long, but happy to elaborate in comments

We made plans to see each other in October

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I asked for clarity on us again. He started dating and has been going out on dates the last month. I was very upset by this, because an update was never given. The trust was shot as I discovered a couple of events he went to and would tell me he was out late with family well turns out they were dates

He said he barely dipped his feet in it. Then said this is just what people do. My response was well, you want me to spend hundreds to see you for a maybe? What if you meet someone in that time that wants to get serious. He said well...no I was waiting until we meet to make it exclusive. But dating in case we fall through. I said I get waiting to meet, but I don't understand why still go on dates. He said where he's at he's bored and it's something to do (He's originally from another state, but with fam in another for a couple months). He said he's not invested in the women and doesn't expect anything to come out of it. I said...ok so you're leading these women on

Anyway, Thursday night, he got upset by something I said. He told me I was being a cunt. He later apologized, said he was on edge and prob best he just goes to bed

Yesterday, he didn't hit me up. Posted stories on snap. Then today posted stories at a fair, brewery holding up beer, him in a mask (honestly looks like he's on a date). Not a single message. He has a tenancy to want things to blow over before hitting someone up after a situation is what he said in the past. But, do you not care. How does that situation happen and no contact, but you're posting stories out and about, happy

Anyway...like I said there's a lot of other things too. Today I sent him a long message saying I have no interest in talking to him on a romantic level anymore. Said I would not accept being called a cunt, then you not even hitting me up the day after to see how I was doing when I was hurt by it. Told him I'm not a bench warmer or someone to hit up when he's bored (since Thursday night he did hit me up saying he was so bored then apparently his sis came home and he was"feeling bleh and don't feel like chatting"). This was prior to the blow up between us. Told him I deserve better. Had a bit more in the message and then I told him I wish him luck. Haven't looked at response yet or if he sent one, but why do I fell a pit in my stomach

I know this is absolutely the right thing to do. There were other small things that I gave him the benefit of a doubt on. Is it normal to feel anxious like this? Am I making the right decision? I'm brand new to dating btw

Submitted August 22, 2020 at 11:06PM

I met a guy back in April. We're both from different states. We began talking every single night on the phone for 4 months. We've video chatted as well. I asked him what's the deal with us after a month. He told me that he's not invested in any other woman. He isn't on any of his dating apps anymore and can't focus on any other woman when he's really into meAnyway months passed. We're still talking every night for hours. I won't lie there were some things I wasn't ok with. I won't go into detail of allll the other things here as I don't want to make this too long, but happy to elaborate in commentsWe made plans to see each other in OctoberFast forward to 2 weeks ago. I asked for clarity on us again. He started dating and has been going out on dates the last month. I was very upset by this, because an update was never given. The trust was shot as I discovered a couple of events he went to and would tell me he was out late with family well turns out they were datesHe said he barely dipped his feet in it. Then said this is just what people do. My response was well, you want me to spend hundreds to see you for a maybe? What if you meet someone in that time that wants to get serious. He said well...no I was waiting until we meet to make it exclusive. But dating in case we fall through. I said I get waiting to meet, but I don't understand why still go on dates. He said where he's at he's bored and it's something to do (He's originally from another state, but with fam in another for a couple months). He said he's not invested in the women and doesn't expect anything to come out of it. I said...ok so you're leading these women onAnyway, Thursday night, he got upset by something I said. He told me I was being a cunt. He later apologized, said he was on edge and prob best he just goes to bedYesterday, he didn't hit me up. Posted stories on snap. Then today posted stories at a fair, brewery holding up beer, him in a mask (honestly looks like he's on a date). Not a single message. He has a tenancy to want things to blow over before hitting someone up after a situation is what he said in the past. But, do you not care. How does that situation happen and no contact, but you're posting stories out and about, happyAnyway...like I said there's a lot of other things too. Today I sent him a long message saying I have no interest in talking to him on a romantic level anymore. Said I would not accept being called a cunt, then you not even hitting me up the day after to see how I was doing when I was hurt by it. Told him I'm not a bench warmer or someone to hit up when he's bored (since Thursday night he did hit me up saying he was so bored then apparently his sis came home and he was"feeling bleh and don't feel like chatting"). This was prior to the blow up between us. Told him I deserve better. Had a bit more in the message and then I told him I wish him luck. Haven't looked at response yet or if he sent one, but why do I fell a pit in my stomachI know this is absolutely the right thing to do. There were other small things that I gave him the benefit of a doubt on. Is it normal to feel anxious like this? Am I making the right decision? I'm brand new to dating btw