Girlfriend doesn’t mind giving head but doesn’t do it because “she gets nothing out of it. Is this selfish?

Before you comment. Let’s avoid the obligatory “if you’re not happy with your sex break up”. Also I’m not forcing her to do anything. If she’s not enjoying it I won’t, that’s how I think.

Im just wondering if I’m wrong to think this is selfish. I go down on her a lot, always until she cums. Sometimes that takes 30 minutes. But when I ask her to give me head she doesn’t want to reciprocate because she “gets nothing out of it.” Even when she does give me head she is either visibly annoyed that she “has” to do it, or does it really well and stops 2 minutes in because “I take too long to cum from blowjobs”. When I told her that it upsets me that she thinks this way because I go down her a lot she responds by saying “you like going down on me though.”

Other than this our sex is pretty good. Although I end up doing all the work most of the time bc she gets tired of being on top quickly. I just find it annoying that she’s not against giving head, she just doesn’t do it because she gets not omg out of it for herself. I personally like going down on her bc I like making her feel good and she’s always really wet afterwards.

TLDR: I go down on my SO a lot and she doesn’t reciprocate because she “gets nothing out of it” , not because she hates or finds the act disgusting.

Submitted March 12, 2020 at 11:46PM

Before you comment. Let’s avoid the obligatory “if you’re not happy with your sex break up”. Also I’m not forcing her to do anything. If she’s not enjoying it I won’t, that’s how I think.Im just wondering if I’m wrong to think this is selfish. I go down on her a lot, always until she cums. Sometimes that takes 30 minutes. But when I ask her to give me head she doesn’t want to reciprocate because she “gets nothing out of it.” Even when she does give me head she is either visibly annoyed that she “has” to do it, or does it really well and stops 2 minutes in because “I take too long to cum from blowjobs”. When I told her that it upsets me that she thinks this way because I go down her a lot she responds by saying “you like going down on me though.”Other than this our sex is pretty good. Although I end up doing all the work most of the time bc she gets tired of being on top quickly. I just find it annoying that she’s not against giving head, she just doesn’t do it because she gets not omg out of it for herself. I personally like going down on her bc I like making her feel good and she’s always really wet afterwards.TLDR: I go down on my SO a lot and she doesn’t reciprocate because she “gets nothing out of it” , not because she hates or finds the act disgusting.