Should I reach out again?

So, this is kind of a long story. A little less than a year ago, I (22F) matched with a guy (26M) on hinge. We got along really well and ended up texting quite a bit for close to a month. We had made plans to meet, but he had a work thing come up and I was going on a trip so we kinda just made a mutual agreement to meet when I got back. Well that fell short because of a texting miscommunication in which I thought he was ghosting me and he thought I was uninterested... it was a whole mess. Anyways, fast forward a few months and he “likes” me again on hinge, and says “hi! How was your trip?” To which I totally acted out of anger and was like “are we going to act like you didn’t ghost me?” And then I basically unmatched after a few days. Fast forward again to 3 weeks ago, when I saw his profile on my suggested people to follow list on Instagram and thought to myself, fuck it! Lets see if we can give this another go. We both clearly liked each other and I felt like we didn’t get a fair shot at making this work. So I followed him, he followed back, and I slid into his DMs 😂 turns out he’s in another country for a few months (just my luck) and so we wouldn’t be able to meet until he got back. We kinda discussed this and decided that we both do want something serious out of this so we would just text back and forth while he was there. Things were going really well.. we get along just as well as we used to and the flirting is quite nice! Well the other day, he asked me how my day was and I responded... and then I guess he fell asleep because it was pretty late for him. Later on in the day I came across something funny and sent him a screenshot of it, and he still hasn’t responded to either text! It’s been 3 days and I’m so. Fucking. Confused!!! We even discussed not ghosting each other this time and just being honest about how we felt... so I can’t help but wonder what’s going on?? He’s posted IG stories and watched mine, so I know he’s definitely alive. I want to reach out to him so badly and just ask if he’s losing interest... but I don’t know if I should. In all honesty I feel hella stupid right now but I really do like him and it seemed like he did too? Like why else entertain a relationship with someone while you’re out of the country unless you want it to continue when you get back.. right? Am I being too critical? Should I just wait? Or should I reach out?? Thank youuuuu



Submitted February 20, 2020 at 12:14AM

So, this is kind of a long story. A little less than a year ago, I (22F) matched with a guy (26M) on hinge. We got along really well and ended up texting quite a bit for close to a month. We had made plans to meet, but he had a work thing come up and I was going on a trip so we kinda just made a mutual agreement to meet when I got back. Well that fell short because of a texting miscommunication in which I thought he was ghosting me and he thought I was uninterested... it was a whole mess. Anyways, fast forward a few months and he “likes” me again on hinge, and says “hi! How was your trip?” To which I totally acted out of anger and was like “are we going to act like you didn’t ghost me?” And then I basically unmatched after a few days. Fast forward again to 3 weeks ago, when I saw his profile on my suggested people to follow list on Instagram and thought to myself, fuck it! Lets see if we can give this another go. We both clearly liked each other and I felt like we didn’t get a fair shot at making this work. So I followed him, he followed back, and I slid into his DMs 😂 turns out he’s in another country for a few months (just my luck) and so we wouldn’t be able to meet until he got back. We kinda discussed this and decided that we both do want something serious out of this so we would just text back and forth while he was there. Things were going really well.. we get along just as well as we used to and the flirting is quite nice! Well the other day, he asked me how my day was and I responded... and then I guess he fell asleep because it was pretty late for him. Later on in the day I came across something funny and sent him a screenshot of it, and he still hasn’t responded to either text! It’s been 3 days and I’m so. Fucking. Confused!!! We even discussed not ghosting each other this time and just being honest about how we felt... so I can’t help but wonder what’s going on?? He’s posted IG stories and watched mine, so I know he’s definitely alive. I want to reach out to him so badly and just ask if he’s losing interest... but I don’t know if I should. In all honesty I feel hella stupid right now but I really do like him and it seemed like he did too? Like why else entertain a relationship with someone while you’re out of the country unless you want it to continue when you get back.. right? Am I being too critical? Should I just wait? Or should I reach out?? Thank youuuuu
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