Anyone who "chases" someone they are in love with who doesn't reciprocate, I'm not judging you or tell you to move on. I understand why you do this.

Before I had real feelings for someone, I used to roll my eyes when someone didn't want to give up on someone they are in love with and they still saw the good in them. I thought they deserve someone better than those they "chased." I told them to move on, until one of them got annoyed with and she told me I've never been in love before so it is hard for me to understand. I felt insulted when she said that. I mean I had crushes before and I could let go of them easily when I thought they wouldn't like me back or when I thought I deserved someone better.

Now that happened to me so I realized how cold I was for 25 years. I wasn't very empathetic with those. After I had experience with those feelings, I've softened up with those. I know what they need. They need someone to be there for them and listening to their vents... The last thing they want to hear is when someone told them to move on. They already know this advice.

I feel like I can't really talk to or vent to anyone about my feelings. I'm afraid of getting judged. They wouldn't want to sit down and listen. They rather tell me to move on, so I can shut up. I just bottle up my feelings because I don't want to be burdening to anyone.

I have strong feelings for this guy, and he may not reciprocate for now. I just don't know what to do. Should I keep chasing, or should I give up? I tried to give up but I just couldn't forget him i always thought of my friend even if I talked to other guys. I know some chased their love for years and they are happily married now. I realize they are actually perfect matches. Sometimes, one partner figured out the "one" right away and another took more time to realize.

I'm kinda scared. There were many times I thought of him but I was too scared to send him. For example, I made a short video of something he loves that made me think of him, but I didn't send him in end. I chickened out. I'm not brave like those people who chased their love....

Anyway, I'm not judging you if you still have feelings for someone even if you know that's one-sided love. I understand how you feel... That sucks. :/



Submitted February 15, 2020 at 12:03AM

Before I had real feelings for someone, I used to roll my eyes when someone didn't want to give up on someone they are in love with and they still saw the good in them. I thought they deserve someone better than those they "chased." I told them to move on, until one of them got annoyed with and she told me I've never been in love before so it is hard for me to understand. I felt insulted when she said that. I mean I had crushes before and I could let go of them easily when I thought they wouldn't like me back or when I thought I deserved someone better.Now that happened to me so I realized how cold I was for 25 years. I wasn't very empathetic with those. After I had experience with those feelings, I've softened up with those. I know what they need. They need someone to be there for them and listening to their vents... The last thing they want to hear is when someone told them to move on. They already know this advice.I feel like I can't really talk to or vent to anyone about my feelings. I'm afraid of getting judged. They wouldn't want to sit down and listen. They rather tell me to move on, so I can shut up. I just bottle up my feelings because I don't want to be burdening to anyone.I have strong feelings for this guy, and he may not reciprocate for now. I just don't know what to do. Should I keep chasing, or should I give up? I tried to give up but I just couldn't forget him i always thought of my friend even if I talked to other guys. I know some chased their love for years and they are happily married now. I realize they are actually perfect matches. Sometimes, one partner figured out the "one" right away and another took more time to realize.I'm kinda scared. There were many times I thought of him but I was too scared to send him. For example, I made a short video of something he loves that made me think of him, but I didn't send him in end. I chickened out. I'm not brave like those people who chased their love....Anyway, I'm not judging you if you still have feelings for someone even if you know that's one-sided love. I understand how you feel... That sucks. :/
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