We have no idea what we’re doing wrong

Me and my boyfriend have decided to start having sex. We are 18 and 20 respectively. We’re long distance for this year, and will not be living near each other until possibly September should I get admitted into a school in his country.

This entire week we’ve pretty much attempted sex every day. I’m leaving in 2 days. We won’t see each other again for another 3.5 months. I am a virgin, and he is not, but has only had one sexual partner before me. So far we’ve worked on getting me to be less tight, which we’ve improved on and has gotten easier, but he’ll randomly lose an erection and it’ll hurt when he tries to put his full dick in there. So far, we’ve worked up to 3 fingers in there, but there’s some resistance when it comes to the other half of his penis. Then, he might randomly lose an erection and we won’t know what to do. I’ve gotten better at giving blow jobs, and hand jobs and have made him cum that way, but penetration is kinda hard right now.

I almost want to cry. I feel unattractive and shitty that I can’t get him in me. I feel bad he’s losing his erection. Everyone talks about sex like it’s the most natural and easy thing in the world to do, but clearly I’m missing the mark. What is wrong with me? I don’t know.

He’s been very assuring that he finds me attractive and loves being intimate with me, but something is clearly off here. Is there some learning curve when it comes to sex? Am I just destined to never have anything fit in there?



Submitted January 06, 2020 at 11:17PM

Me and my boyfriend have decided to start having sex. We are 18 and 20 respectively. We’re long distance for this year, and will not be living near each other until possibly September should I get admitted into a school in his country.This entire week we’ve pretty much attempted sex every day. I’m leaving in 2 days. We won’t see each other again for another 3.5 months. I am a virgin, and he is not, but has only had one sexual partner before me. So far we’ve worked on getting me to be less tight, which we’ve improved on and has gotten easier, but he’ll randomly lose an erection and it’ll hurt when he tries to put his full dick in there. So far, we’ve worked up to 3 fingers in there, but there’s some resistance when it comes to the other half of his penis. Then, he might randomly lose an erection and we won’t know what to do. I’ve gotten better at giving blow jobs, and hand jobs and have made him cum that way, but penetration is kinda hard right now.I almost want to cry. I feel unattractive and shitty that I can’t get him in me. I feel bad he’s losing his erection. Everyone talks about sex like it’s the most natural and easy thing in the world to do, but clearly I’m missing the mark. What is wrong with me? I don’t know.He’s been very assuring that he finds me attractive and loves being intimate with me, but something is clearly off here. Is there some learning curve when it comes to sex? Am I just destined to never have anything fit in there?
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