Talking to a girl with boyfriend for years now

hi guys, girls This question goes to anybody who has gone trough any similar experience, or think that may have an advice on the matter. 3 years ago I started talking to a girl on instagram. She was incredibly receptive to my messages and we got along very well. Turns out she had a boyfriend. When I found out, I kind of thought that was a lost cause, and just writed something like "if you feel like missing me just talk to me on whatsapp". A day later or so I got a new message; it was from her. From that point on we started talking a lot, and the "only reason" we didn't see each other was because of her boyfriend; who she doesn't want to betray. Anyway, in that time we did some sexting and nude sending (????) but we never got to see each other. She wanted to stop talking to me because she wanted to stop doing things "wrong" but she couldn't and neither did I. So we keep talking for a few months. One day she made up her mind and we stop talking. I thought it was the end - but it wasn't. A few months later I reacted to some instagram story she uploaded, and we started going down the same road again. Texting, calls, nudes, talking about the way we feel with each other. Then we stop talking again; never got to actually see each other. A few months later, again. Bla bla bla, but this time she invited me to go to her graduation party, and see her face to face for the very first time. Still, her boyfriend was around, so we kind of talk to each other very quickly and see each other from the distance - nothing else happened, of course. a week after that she invited me to go to another graduation party - his boyfriend wouldn't be around - I said yes but I have a transport fault on the way and I couldn't make it - she was very sad (and so was I). We talked for a few more months and I decided we needed to stop talking. Then, guess what? We've started talking again. And we got to see each other on a mall, but it was nearby her house so we couldn't be very close or "suspicious". We had a really good time, but that was it. LAter we wanted to see each other again, but she says that she cannot "dissapear" without telling her family and boyfriend were she is going - she is constantly reporting where she is going, to do what, so she cannot dissapear without giving explanations. Her best friends doesn't know anything about this so she cannot even make an alabi. We've been on and off and on and off. I dont know what to do; i dont know if there's actually anything to do. I really like her, and she says she likes me too. That she feels in a very special way with me. She says she want to be with me, fuck me, and I don't know if I should keep trying, or if there's a trick to it or a way out. Has anybody of you ever been in a similar situation? It's been years now, so Im pretty sure it's clearly not a whim or so. Thank you!

Submitted December 06, 2019 at 11:41PM

hi guys, girls This question goes to anybody who has gone trough any similar experience, or think that may have an advice on the matter. 3 years ago I started talking to a girl on instagram. She was incredibly receptive to my messages and we got along very well. Turns out she had a boyfriend. When I found out, I kind of thought that was a lost cause, and just writed something like "if you feel like missing me just talk to me on whatsapp". A day later or so I got a new message; it was from her. From that point on we started talking a lot, and the "only reason" we didn't see each other was because of her boyfriend; who she doesn't want to betray. Anyway, in that time we did some sexting and nude sending (????) but we never got to see each other. She wanted to stop talking to me because she wanted to stop doing things "wrong" but she couldn't and neither did I. So we keep talking for a few months. One day she made up her mind and we stop talking. I thought it was the end - but it wasn't. A few months later I reacted to some instagram story she uploaded, and we started going down the same road again. Texting, calls, nudes, talking about the way we feel with each other. Then we stop talking again; never got to actually see each other. A few months later, again. Bla bla bla, but this time she invited me to go to her graduation party, and see her face to face for the very first time. Still, her boyfriend was around, so we kind of talk to each other very quickly and see each other from the distance - nothing else happened, of course. a week after that she invited me to go to another graduation party - his boyfriend wouldn't be around - I said yes but I have a transport fault on the way and I couldn't make it - she was very sad (and so was I). We talked for a few more months and I decided we needed to stop talking. Then, guess what? We've started talking again. And we got to see each other on a mall, but it was nearby her house so we couldn't be very close or "suspicious". We had a really good time, but that was it. LAter we wanted to see each other again, but she says that she cannot "dissapear" without telling her family and boyfriend were she is going - she is constantly reporting where she is going, to do what, so she cannot dissapear without giving explanations. Her best friends doesn't know anything about this so she cannot even make an alabi. We've been on and off and on and off. I dont know what to do; i dont know if there's actually anything to do. I really like her, and she says she likes me too. That she feels in a very special way with me. She says she want to be with me, fuck me, and I don't know if I should keep trying, or if there's a trick to it or a way out. Has anybody of you ever been in a similar situation? It's been years now, so Im pretty sure it's clearly not a whim or so. Thank you!