Loss of sex drive, male 29

So I've been reading other post about this and idk... hoping someone can help or offer advice

But recently I have completely lost interest in sex and its impacting my relationship with my girlfriend(24). I think it started about a month ago and it's not getting any better.

I can still get hard if I touch myself but I cant stay hard and I'm terrified that if I initiate with my SO, I'll go soft and make her fell bad (has happened a few times already). I used to wake up with morning wood but I dont anymore, I used to get angry/antsy if I didn't release at least once a week, but I havnt masterbaited for like 3 weeks now.

I'm not overweight, I'm about 150 and 5'10''. In fact I've been losing weight during the past month. I'm not really depressed, but this issue has given me extreme anxiety and I've cried a few times about it. I went and got a testosterone test and it came back normal. I havnt looked at porn in a while, I dont really drink. I stopped smoking weed bc I thought that was the issue but nothing has changed. I just dont want to have sex.

What sucks is I have no males to talk to about this. I'm not sure if this is common, if this will pass, or if something is wrong with me. I find my girlfriend attractive but I dont want to have sex with her.... I also find other women attractive but still dont have a desire to have sex.

I'm scared that maybe I'm gun shy? Like the anxiety of not having sex is making me nervous and causing me to lose my erection. Or maybe I have a medical condition? Like unsaid, I've lost some weight, have felt depressed recently and havnt really been eating that much. Thyroid issues run in my family so maybe its that??

I guess what I'm looking for is a males perspective and if any of you have gone through this? I've been dating my GF for over 3 years and we used to have sex daily, then twice a week, then weekly and now it's a struggle for me to have sex monthly. My girlfriend wants to have sex daily and it's really getting to her that I cant perform. I love her dearly and find her beautiful but maybe its bc I've had sex with her over a thousand times that I just dont want to anymore? Guys in long term relationships, how do you deal with this??

Thanks.



Submitted December 07, 2019 at 12:08AM

So I've been reading other post about this and idk... hoping someone can help or offer adviceBut recently I have completely lost interest in sex and its impacting my relationship with my girlfriend(24). I think it started about a month ago and it's not getting any better.I can still get hard if I touch myself but I cant stay hard and I'm terrified that if I initiate with my SO, I'll go soft and make her fell bad (has happened a few times already). I used to wake up with morning wood but I dont anymore, I used to get angry/antsy if I didn't release at least once a week, but I havnt masterbaited for like 3 weeks now.I'm not overweight, I'm about 150 and 5'10''. In fact I've been losing weight during the past month. I'm not really depressed, but this issue has given me extreme anxiety and I've cried a few times about it. I went and got a testosterone test and it came back normal. I havnt looked at porn in a while, I dont really drink. I stopped smoking weed bc I thought that was the issue but nothing has changed. I just dont want to have sex.What sucks is I have no males to talk to about this. I'm not sure if this is common, if this will pass, or if something is wrong with me. I find my girlfriend attractive but I dont want to have sex with her.... I also find other women attractive but still dont have a desire to have sex.I'm scared that maybe I'm gun shy? Like the anxiety of not having sex is making me nervous and causing me to lose my erection. Or maybe I have a medical condition? Like unsaid, I've lost some weight, have felt depressed recently and havnt really been eating that much. Thyroid issues run in my family so maybe its that??I guess what I'm looking for is a males perspective and if any of you have gone through this? I've been dating my GF for over 3 years and we used to have sex daily, then twice a week, then weekly and now it's a struggle for me to have sex monthly. My girlfriend wants to have sex daily and it's really getting to her that I cant perform. I love her dearly and find her beautiful but maybe its bc I've had sex with her over a thousand times that I just dont want to anymore? Guys in long term relationships, how do you deal with this??Thanks.
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