Just found out girl (24F) I’m dating for the last 2 months is moving in with 2 other guys and I don’t know to react.

So I have been dating this girl for the last 2 months, and everything has been going amazing. But she has been living with her parents for the last year after she had a tough brake up. She’s finally moving out and I’m happy for her but she’s moving in with 2 other guys. Her best friends boyfriend used to live there but is moving in with her best friend, and they needed someone to take over his part of the lease. She decided she was going to take over his part of the lease.

One of the guys that lives there is one of her friends I guess. I haven’t met this guy before and I assumed they have been friends for a long time. She mentioned him helping her move some of her stuff over to their apartment since I’m out of town on leave right now (I’m active duty). I asked her if she went to high school with this guy or something and she said she just met this guy this year but he’s friends with a lot of her friends. She also tells me they go to the bars a lot with him and her other friends.

Am I just being jealous right now, or should I be seeing red flags? I haven’t pressed too hard asking about this guy since I’m not home right now and feel like it’s more of a conversation for in person. Am I over reacting?

Me also being active duty this worries me since I’m deployed for 3 months at a time every 3 months. I’m not in a “committed” relationship with this girl yet but I feel like I can see this becoming a problem? How should I go about asking her about this guy? I wasn’t even worried about it until I found out they have only know each other less than a year.



Submitted December 23, 2019 at 12:12AM

So I have been dating this girl for the last 2 months, and everything has been going amazing. But she has been living with her parents for the last year after she had a tough brake up. She’s finally moving out and I’m happy for her but she’s moving in with 2 other guys. Her best friends boyfriend used to live there but is moving in with her best friend, and they needed someone to take over his part of the lease. She decided she was going to take over his part of the lease.One of the guys that lives there is one of her friends I guess. I haven’t met this guy before and I assumed they have been friends for a long time. She mentioned him helping her move some of her stuff over to their apartment since I’m out of town on leave right now (I’m active duty). I asked her if she went to high school with this guy or something and she said she just met this guy this year but he’s friends with a lot of her friends. She also tells me they go to the bars a lot with him and her other friends.Am I just being jealous right now, or should I be seeing red flags? I haven’t pressed too hard asking about this guy since I’m not home right now and feel like it’s more of a conversation for in person. Am I over reacting?Me also being active duty this worries me since I’m deployed for 3 months at a time every 3 months. I’m not in a “committed” relationship with this girl yet but I feel like I can see this becoming a problem? How should I go about asking her about this guy? I wasn’t even worried about it until I found out they have only know each other less than a year.
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