Is she being friendly or am I missing something obvious (can use help from women particularly)

So there's this girl at whom I have liked for a while. I've known her for about a year at this point and I didn't really pursue anything with her. We would rarely talk when we did work together and I was nothing more than a co-worker whom she barely knew, so I didn't bother trying anything since asking her out would've been futile. I didn't work with her often and any feelings I had subsided pretty quick. Fast forward to 3 months ago and I've started working with her like 3-4 times a week. Nothing really changed besides us maybe interacting once or twice during our shift if we are working near each other. A little less than two months ago though and our relationship began to change. She started to talk to me a lot more than before and she would tease me pretty often. In the last few weeks our relationship rapidly progressed and now we are pretty close. She talks to me more than anyone (except one girl at work who's her close friend), she teases me a lot and I go along with it flirtatiously (I think I'm being flirtatious who knows), and I've become really comfortable with her. I'm a fairly introverted person and she's super outgoing, usually I have a hard time talking to very sociable people comfortably yet alone sociable women, but with her I'm completely at ease. My feelings towards her started to re-emerge at about the same time we started talking more and lately its gotten to a point where I really want to ask her out. The thing is I can't tell if she's just being friendly with me or if she is into me.

She treats me way differently than she treats others and lot of the things she does could be interpreted as clear interest. On one hand I think she's definitely into me and she's being very obvious about it and I'm just being blind. On the other hand I might be really misinterpreting friendly behavior which is holding me back from asking her out.

A lot of things she does could be interpreted as friendly or romantic interest, but there is one thing in particular that stood out to me that I need somebody else's opinion on. When we talk she normally stands really close to me, like within a foot which no other girl at work does, but I figured this could just means she's comfortable around me and doesn't necessarily mean she likes me. Lately though she gets really close sometimes. We were reading a work memo on a table and I was leaning against the table reading it. I made room for her to see it to when she walked over, she leaned against the table a got really close to me to the point where she was physically up against my chest. I almost reflexively moved away to make space, but reminded myself just to stay there and see how she responds. She didn't move or anything. I've also noticed when she walks over to tell me something she'll come close enough to where our feet touch before stopping. I would imagine most women wouldn't get that close to a guy from work who they consider a work friend, but that's where my question comes in:

Is it typical for a girl to get that close to a guy who they consider a work friend, or is it indicative of some degree of romantic interest?

Sorry for the long winded post. I think about this way to much and its nice to just tell somebody about it. I greatly appreciate your time in reading this post and providing me some advice. Thank you.

Tl;dr I am either oblivious to a girl who obviously likes me or I'm misinterpreting a friendship really badly. I need help.



Submitted December 03, 2019 at 12:22AM

So there's this girl at whom I have liked for a while. I've known her for about a year at this point and I didn't really pursue anything with her. We would rarely talk when we did work together and I was nothing more than a co-worker whom she barely knew, so I didn't bother trying anything since asking her out would've been futile. I didn't work with her often and any feelings I had subsided pretty quick. Fast forward to 3 months ago and I've started working with her like 3-4 times a week. Nothing really changed besides us maybe interacting once or twice during our shift if we are working near each other. A little less than two months ago though and our relationship began to change. She started to talk to me a lot more than before and she would tease me pretty often. In the last few weeks our relationship rapidly progressed and now we are pretty close. She talks to me more than anyone (except one girl at work who's her close friend), she teases me a lot and I go along with it flirtatiously (I think I'm being flirtatious who knows), and I've become really comfortable with her. I'm a fairly introverted person and she's super outgoing, usually I have a hard time talking to very sociable people comfortably yet alone sociable women, but with her I'm completely at ease. My feelings towards her started to re-emerge at about the same time we started talking more and lately its gotten to a point where I really want to ask her out. The thing is I can't tell if she's just being friendly with me or if she is into me.She treats me way differently than she treats others and lot of the things she does could be interpreted as clear interest. On one hand I think she's definitely into me and she's being very obvious about it and I'm just being blind. On the other hand I might be really misinterpreting friendly behavior which is holding me back from asking her out.A lot of things she does could be interpreted as friendly or romantic interest, but there is one thing in particular that stood out to me that I need somebody else's opinion on. When we talk she normally stands really close to me, like within a foot which no other girl at work does, but I figured this could just means she's comfortable around me and doesn't necessarily mean she likes me. Lately though she gets really close sometimes. We were reading a work memo on a table and I was leaning against the table reading it. I made room for her to see it to when she walked over, she leaned against the table a got really close to me to the point where she was physically up against my chest. I almost reflexively moved away to make space, but reminded myself just to stay there and see how she responds. She didn't move or anything. I've also noticed when she walks over to tell me something she'll come close enough to where our feet touch before stopping. I would imagine most women wouldn't get that close to a guy from work who they consider a work friend, but that's where my question comes in:Is it typical for a girl to get that close to a guy who they consider a work friend, or is it indicative of some degree of romantic interest?Sorry for the long winded post. I think about this way to much and its nice to just tell somebody about it. I greatly appreciate your time in reading this post and providing me some advice. Thank you.Tl;dr I am either oblivious to a girl who obviously likes me or I'm misinterpreting a friendship really badly. I need help.

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