I'm so confused.

33/f here. 

Over the summer, someone from my childhood friend-requested me on Facebook. No big deal. He started liking / commenting on a lot of my posts. I guess we both realized we share a sense of humor and share views on a lot of things, so we started tagging each other in posts, having small conversations on posts via comments. That went on for a few months, and then he messaged me one day. We sporadically messaged for a month or two, and then he gave me his number and asked if I wanted to text instead.  So I texted him. We texted a bit but it was sporadic. One night we watched the same movie and texted pretty much all night.  About a week and a half ago, I thought of something that reminded me of him, so I texted him. It turned into a week and a half of non-stop texting. From wake-up to bedtime. Nothing flirty, but we were catching up on each other's lives, discussing interesting topics, hobbies, telling jokes, etc.  A few times he took hours to respond when he was working, he would apologize and explain why. I was REALLY enjoying talking. I even posted on here asking thoughts on should I ask him out.  Thursday night he fell asleep while we were watching a show and texting about it. No big deal, it was late. Yesterday, he said nothing to me. Around 6pm I texted him a joke about something we had discussed. At 830 he texted back just lol. I let it be. Then at midnight he texted me that he was so sorry, he hadn't felt good, and he fell asleep as soon as he got home from work.  So I texted him when I woke up. It's 710pm now and he never texted me back. He did just like a picture I posted on Facebook.  Would others say this is a lost cause and leave him alone? Consider it ghosting? Reach out, see if he feels better? I don't understand why he would like 99% of my pictures on FB (not revealing ones) and spend a week and a half talking to me and then BOOM, Nothing. 



Submitted November 10, 2019 at 12:15AM

33/f here. Over the summer, someone from my childhood friend-requested me on Facebook. No big deal. He started liking / commenting on a lot of my posts. I guess we both realized we share a sense of humor and share views on a lot of things, so we started tagging each other in posts, having small conversations on posts via comments. That went on for a few months, and then he messaged me one day. We sporadically messaged for a month or two, and then he gave me his number and asked if I wanted to text instead.  So I texted him. We texted a bit but it was sporadic. One night we watched the same movie and texted pretty much all night.  About a week and a half ago, I thought of something that reminded me of him, so I texted him. It turned into a week and a half of non-stop texting. From wake-up to bedtime. Nothing flirty, but we were catching up on each other's lives, discussing interesting topics, hobbies, telling jokes, etc.  A few times he took hours to respond when he was working, he would apologize and explain why. I was REALLY enjoying talking. I even posted on here asking thoughts on should I ask him out.  Thursday night he fell asleep while we were watching a show and texting about it. No big deal, it was late. Yesterday, he said nothing to me. Around 6pm I texted him a joke about something we had discussed. At 830 he texted back just lol. I let it be. Then at midnight he texted me that he was so sorry, he hadn't felt good, and he fell asleep as soon as he got home from work.  So I texted him when I woke up. It's 710pm now and he never texted me back. He did just like a picture I posted on Facebook.  Would others say this is a lost cause and leave him alone? Consider it ghosting? Reach out, see if he feels better? I don't understand why he would like 99% of my pictures on FB (not revealing ones) and spend a week and a half talking to me and then BOOM, Nothing. 
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