Should I give this guy a chance? He asked me out, but I'm not sure.

Hi. I want to know what's your take on this. I'm a female, 28 y/o. This guy invite me on a date this week:

I met a guy through Facebook; from his pictures, he seemed cute. So we started chatting, and found out he have the same interests, hobbies and tastes. So that was pretty awesome, since in my country is really hard to find someone with those specific things (I mean, my interests, hobbies, etc)., so I thought that was reall great.

After some time, he asked for my number and I gave it to him, and he started to text me everyday (in a good way, not in an annoying way, lol) and I texted him too. We talked about everything, so eventually the conversation turned about sex, and it was good, however after that, everytime we talked he kept veering the conversation towards that theme and I found that dissapointing, and kinda annoying tbh. But I overlooked that because of all the other stuff. However the other day he told me that he would like if I give him a blow job, and I was like "no way lol", but he wasn't joking and he kept asking me, etc, but I just keep saying "not happening" and that was all. After that I felt awkward texting him, so I didn't. Days passed and he didn't either, but the other day he texted me and told me that he would like to get to know me better, and if I could go out with him (that was this past week), and I told him that I couldn't because I was busy, that maybe this week (meaning, the week that starts tomorrow lol), but the truth is that I'm not so sure about him anymore. And he hasn't texted me since the day he asked me (like this past Wednesday) and me neither. But in case he asks again....

Here are some other "red flags", or at least I think, these are red flags, I'm not sure:

  • He has a 9 months baby. The red flag about this is obviously, the baby mama. The baby is just 9 months and he's not with the mother anymore. He also has a 9 years old boy, with another woman.
  • He told me that one of his vices was sex. And yeah, I didn't ask about it because I didn't take it seriously, but maybe I should have, since he asked me about the blow job and all...

That's all, but I would like to know what you think about this. Should I give him a chance?



Submitted October 20, 2019 at 11:38PM

Hi. I want to know what's your take on this. I'm a female, 28 y/o. This guy invite me on a date this week:I met a guy through Facebook; from his pictures, he seemed cute. So we started chatting, and found out he have the same interests, hobbies and tastes. So that was pretty awesome, since in my country is really hard to find someone with those specific things (I mean, my interests, hobbies, etc)., so I thought that was reall great.After some time, he asked for my number and I gave it to him, and he started to text me everyday (in a good way, not in an annoying way, lol) and I texted him too. We talked about everything, so eventually the conversation turned about sex, and it was good, however after that, everytime we talked he kept veering the conversation towards that theme and I found that dissapointing, and kinda annoying tbh. But I overlooked that because of all the other stuff. However the other day he told me that he would like if I give him a blow job, and I was like "no way lol", but he wasn't joking and he kept asking me, etc, but I just keep saying "not happening" and that was all. After that I felt awkward texting him, so I didn't. Days passed and he didn't either, but the other day he texted me and told me that he would like to get to know me better, and if I could go out with him (that was this past week), and I told him that I couldn't because I was busy, that maybe this week (meaning, the week that starts tomorrow lol), but the truth is that I'm not so sure about him anymore. And he hasn't texted me since the day he asked me (like this past Wednesday) and me neither. But in case he asks again....Here are some other "red flags", or at least I think, these are red flags, I'm not sure:He has a 9 months baby. The red flag about this is obviously, the baby mama. The baby is just 9 months and he's not with the mother anymore. He also has a 9 years old boy, with another woman.He told me that one of his vices was sex. And yeah, I didn't ask about it because I didn't take it seriously, but maybe I should have, since he asked me about the blow job and all...That's all, but I would like to know what you think about this. Should I give him a chance?
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