How can I stop being in my head all the time ?
Throwaway because this embarrassing and I'm really bad and shy about this stuff.
I (22M) have been talking to this girl (22F) for like 2 and a half months. I live in the US of A and she in England. We've known each other for a few years but I kinda just decided to try it and see what happens, making my intentions clear, and I think she knows that.
Living in different time zones 6 hours apart makes it kinda hard to talk often, given work and sleep, but overall I think its been going good. We talk basically daily, and usually on our days off try to make time to talk to each other, sometimes brief. And I don't think anything bad is happening as far as I'm aware.
But, I'm really really bad at this stuff, and I'll say I'm not that confident. I'm a pretty mature, level-headed fellow, except for things like this. I know she's usually shyish and quiet, and will give 1 word answers a lot. But I also have trouble making conversation because I don't want to say anything stupid or mess anything up of the sorts. I'm definitely trying hard. Maybe too hard. Sometimes I worry I'm not doing enough and try to be more creative and thoughtful with conversation, usually when its 1 word responses. Other times, I'm worried I'm talking too much and try to talk less and be short with answers and such. And I never know if I'm being annoying with it, any of it.
This isn't normal behavior or anything, right? Is there anything more I can do? Am I just looking to much into it?? I really have no idea, and I'm sorry if maybe I'm missing some info and if this jumps all over the place, I just really don't want to mess this up or anything and its an embarrassing thing to talk about..
Submitted October 20, 2019 at 11:31PM
Throwaway because this embarrassing and I'm really bad and shy about this stuff.I (22M) have been talking to this girl (22F) for like 2 and a half months. I live in the US of A and she in England. We've known each other for a few years but I kinda just decided to try it and see what happens, making my intentions clear, and I think she knows that.Living in different time zones 6 hours apart makes it kinda hard to talk often, given work and sleep, but overall I think its been going good. We talk basically daily, and usually on our days off try to make time to talk to each other, sometimes brief. And I don't think anything bad is happening as far as I'm aware.But, I'm really really bad at this stuff, and I'll say I'm not that confident. I'm a pretty mature, level-headed fellow, except for things like this. I know she's usually shyish and quiet, and will give 1 word answers a lot. But I also have trouble making conversation because I don't want to say anything stupid or mess anything up of the sorts. I'm definitely trying hard. Maybe too hard. Sometimes I worry I'm not doing enough and try to be more creative and thoughtful with conversation, usually when its 1 word responses. Other times, I'm worried I'm talking too much and try to talk less and be short with answers and such. And I never know if I'm being annoying with it, any of it.This isn't normal behavior or anything, right? Is there anything more I can do? Am I just looking to much into it?? I really have no idea, and I'm sorry if maybe I'm missing some info and if this jumps all over the place, I just really don't want to mess this up or anything and its an embarrassing thing to talk about..
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