Is it immoral/a lie to say a half true to your ex?

So I (23) technically broke up with my ex (25) couple of months ago, before summer started. I wasn't sure of my feelings, we had a certain lack of communication when it came to conflicts solving and on top of that I started questioning my sexuality. We kept seeing each other during the summer (like 5 times) and we had sex on those occasions, mainly because I feel very secure around him.

We still had this deal that we are not together and we are allowed to sleep with other people as required. He said he is not interested in meeting other people, but I knew I need to sleep with a woman before I even consider getting back with him, for clarity. I went for holidays, apparently we had a phone call after I came back, during which he asked me, in context, if I slept with a man during our time apart. I said that I didn't. I avoided the confession which would naturally follow up after that. The truth is that I did not sleep with a man, but I did sleep with a woman over the summer (we were still allowed, as we were both single). Am I being a prick for not following up with the information that I slept with a girl? Like I wasn't aware I am bisexual and I was really scared to admit that I slept with a girl over the phone. I told him about that later on, when we were about to have sex and I wasn't sure if I might require an STD test. I didn't want to accidentaly infect him with something,

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He got really furious about the fact that I slept with somebody. We got back together for 2 weeks and he recently broke up with me, saying that he cannot trust me as I did not provide him with the full information and hence mislead him.



Submitted October 21, 2019 at 12:14AM

So I (23) technically broke up with my ex (25) couple of months ago, before summer started. I wasn't sure of my feelings, we had a certain lack of communication when it came to conflicts solving and on top of that I started questioning my sexuality. We kept seeing each other during the summer (like 5 times) and we had sex on those occasions, mainly because I feel very secure around him.We still had this deal that we are not together and we are allowed to sleep with other people as required. He said he is not interested in meeting other people, but I knew I need to sleep with a woman before I even consider getting back with him, for clarity. I went for holidays, apparently we had a phone call after I came back, during which he asked me, in context, if I slept with a man during our time apart. I said that I didn't. I avoided the confession which would naturally follow up after that. The truth is that I did not sleep with a man, but I did sleep with a woman over the summer (we were still allowed, as we were both single). Am I being a prick for not following up with the information that I slept with a girl? Like I wasn't aware I am bisexual and I was really scared to admit that I slept with a girl over the phone. I told him about that later on, when we were about to have sex and I wasn't sure if I might require an STD test. I didn't want to accidentaly infect him with something,​He got really furious about the fact that I slept with somebody. We got back together for 2 weeks and he recently broke up with me, saying that he cannot trust me as I did not provide him with the full information and hence mislead him.
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