Inexperienced with dating and a little nervous (F19)

(I’m on mobile, sorry) To preface: I’ve had one boyfriend before when I was in high school. It was a really tame relationship, we never even kissed. He was nice and someone I could count on to be my date to dances. However, I’ve been told our relationship wasn’t a normal one (it wasn’t) and now I’m really clueless when it comes to dating.

In a moment of weakness, I decided to download a dating app to try and get myself out there. I’m not looking for hookups or anything like that, I was/am looking for a relationship. I matched with a few people and specifically started talking to this one guy (M21). Right off the bat he texted me constantly with good morning and goodnight texts, calling me pretty, and asked what I was up to multiple times a day. Being with my first boyfriend, who barely texted me at all and didn’t acknowledge my presence that much, this new guy is a real 180 from what I’m used to. At first he seemed right up my alley, with interests and beliefs that lined up with mine, but as we’ve been talking more, I find myself increasingly worried of what his intentions actually are, especially when he says “I really don’t know what I’m looking for.”

We scheduled a date to go to his place to hang out. It seemed innocent enough at the time I agreed to it because I was so star struck that a guy seemed genuinely interested in me. As the day of the date gets closer, I’m worried that he thinks it’s going to be a hookup (especially because it’s planned to be at his place) which I am definitely not into at the moment! I’m not sure how to properly breach the subject matter because I don’t want to insult him by assuming that’s what he wants. I feel grossly inexperienced and my gut keeps telling me that when the date comes, it’s going to be like a lamb going out for slaughter. Any advice?

TL;DR Inexperienced in dating and worried about upcoming date!



Submitted October 20, 2019 at 11:52PM

(I’m on mobile, sorry) To preface: I’ve had one boyfriend before when I was in high school. It was a really tame relationship, we never even kissed. He was nice and someone I could count on to be my date to dances. However, I’ve been told our relationship wasn’t a normal one (it wasn’t) and now I’m really clueless when it comes to dating.In a moment of weakness, I decided to download a dating app to try and get myself out there. I’m not looking for hookups or anything like that, I was/am looking for a relationship. I matched with a few people and specifically started talking to this one guy (M21). Right off the bat he texted me constantly with good morning and goodnight texts, calling me pretty, and asked what I was up to multiple times a day. Being with my first boyfriend, who barely texted me at all and didn’t acknowledge my presence that much, this new guy is a real 180 from what I’m used to. At first he seemed right up my alley, with interests and beliefs that lined up with mine, but as we’ve been talking more, I find myself increasingly worried of what his intentions actually are, especially when he says “I really don’t know what I’m looking for.”We scheduled a date to go to his place to hang out. It seemed innocent enough at the time I agreed to it because I was so star struck that a guy seemed genuinely interested in me. As the day of the date gets closer, I’m worried that he thinks it’s going to be a hookup (especially because it’s planned to be at his place) which I am definitely not into at the moment! I’m not sure how to properly breach the subject matter because I don’t want to insult him by assuming that’s what he wants. I feel grossly inexperienced and my gut keeps telling me that when the date comes, it’s going to be like a lamb going out for slaughter. Any advice?TL;DR Inexperienced in dating and worried about upcoming date!
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