Another is this a date post

I'm a 30 year old Male who has not dated or even hooked up with anyone for close too 12 years now. I have just recently lost over 130lbs since December of 2018 and decided its time to get back out there again. My appearance and confidence has drastically changed since the weight loss. I have always been athletic and funny and not a sloppy fat guy. I have had many females straight up ask me out in those 12 years but I just made lame excuse after lame excuse to not date or hang with anyone. But now that I'm trying to get out there again and feel much better about myself my brain went full insane with overthinking everything!!!

Is this a date:

I started a new job in March and right away hit it off with a few people. One a female who I have always thought attractive but was still not ready to date/chill especially with a co worker. She was the one who asked for my number first back then. We really only ever talked in work. We went out for drinks in a group one night and a smaller group of us ended up going back to a friends house and smoking and eating pizza and talking/joking. Her and I laughed hysterically all night and thats when I realized I liked this girl. She ended up leaving the job probably 2 weeks after that night and I just never made any effort to contact her. Since then I have lost probably another 45 pounds and got a whole new wardrobe that actually fits my body now. I started posting updates on my social media about my weight loss and she was always liking/loving every picture. She was in Amsterdam 2 weeks ago and I posted a comment on a photo saying I was jealous and always wanted to start traveling and missed her at work. She replied right away saying I need to travel that I deserve it and she missed me as well and wanted to get drinks sometime. I texted her today asking if she was back in the states and if so we should get those drinks soon. She replied immediately saying she was back and that we definitely should and to let her know when I was free. I then proposed a time this Friday where she said she was free and that sounds great and would see me then.

I'm over thinking everything after 12 years of not really talking to anyone. Does this sound like she my be interested in anything or is she just meeting up with an old friend and co worker. I know I should just ask her but just figured I would get the opinions of others before Friday because why not?

Thanks for taking the time to read my wall of text for those who do!!



Submitted October 30, 2019 at 11:26PM

I'm a 30 year old Male who has not dated or even hooked up with anyone for close too 12 years now. I have just recently lost over 130lbs since December of 2018 and decided its time to get back out there again. My appearance and confidence has drastically changed since the weight loss. I have always been athletic and funny and not a sloppy fat guy. I have had many females straight up ask me out in those 12 years but I just made lame excuse after lame excuse to not date or hang with anyone. But now that I'm trying to get out there again and feel much better about myself my brain went full insane with overthinking everything!!!Is this a date:I started a new job in March and right away hit it off with a few people. One a female who I have always thought attractive but was still not ready to date/chill especially with a co worker. She was the one who asked for my number first back then. We really only ever talked in work. We went out for drinks in a group one night and a smaller group of us ended up going back to a friends house and smoking and eating pizza and talking/joking. Her and I laughed hysterically all night and thats when I realized I liked this girl. She ended up leaving the job probably 2 weeks after that night and I just never made any effort to contact her. Since then I have lost probably another 45 pounds and got a whole new wardrobe that actually fits my body now. I started posting updates on my social media about my weight loss and she was always liking/loving every picture. She was in Amsterdam 2 weeks ago and I posted a comment on a photo saying I was jealous and always wanted to start traveling and missed her at work. She replied right away saying I need to travel that I deserve it and she missed me as well and wanted to get drinks sometime. I texted her today asking if she was back in the states and if so we should get those drinks soon. She replied immediately saying she was back and that we definitely should and to let her know when I was free. I then proposed a time this Friday where she said she was free and that sounds great and would see me then.I'm over thinking everything after 12 years of not really talking to anyone. Does this sound like she my be interested in anything or is she just meeting up with an old friend and co worker. I know I should just ask her but just figured I would get the opinions of others before Friday because why not?Thanks for taking the time to read my wall of text for those who do!!
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