What makes a guy in the mood

My husband (40) and me (32) have a couple kids. Earlier in our relationship sex was frequent. It was nice to have that time together. We've been married for 0 years and together for 12. We have 2 kids. Sex nowadays is once a month IF I'm lucky. He has some back issues etc and stressed from his job which is understandable. But lately well for the past year or so he's chosen playing video games over spending time with me. Lately I texted him when I'm laying in bed(and hes downstairs staring at the tv) sexy things etc words or special lingerie I have been thinking of buying and wanted his opinion most of the time he's been ignoring it. Well yesterday our child did poorly at practice and they got yelled. Hubby just broke down because hes trying to get them to understand things and they just ignore him etc. Well I'm sick of hearing hubby yell so after our kids go to bed I do as well and face the wall covered up. Well he comes up stairs for a minute and just says how sad he is that our child doesnt listen(childs 11). He says that hes going back downstairs etc to shut stuff off. Okay whatever. He comes upstairs and lay down so I glance over and he has his phone out. Whatever I'm tired and going to bed. So I literally pass out from exhaustion etc listning to him yell. Idk what time it was or if I was dreaming so I wake up when I feel air on my butt. I didn't know what was going on at first so I tried pulling my pants and my hand got shoved away. I turn and look and he's taking off my pants and turning me over. So I now realize what he's doing

YES he has permission to wake me up like that.

I'm just trying to understand how he could possibly have been in the mood for sex if he was so stressed from work and our child making him mad etc. Especially when it's also been once a month now on and we already had sex on a Monday and then the night I woke up to him doing the was on a Wednesday.

Another thing is I want to know why us women(who aren't currently on the pill etc) have to ask the guy to put on a condom when sex happens? He knows I don't want anymore kids and just yesterday when he woke me up in the middle of the night for sex etc (I knew what was happening I was still a bit groggy),why he didn't wear one at all.

We had a huge discussion the past couple months of him not wearing any and he acts like its my responsibility to make sure he does to me telling him I don't want more kids and now he's not wearing them.



Submitted September 05, 2019 at 11:49PM

My husband (40) and me (32) have a couple kids. Earlier in our relationship sex was frequent. It was nice to have that time together. We've been married for 0 years and together for 12. We have 2 kids. Sex nowadays is once a month IF I'm lucky. He has some back issues etc and stressed from his job which is understandable. But lately well for the past year or so he's chosen playing video games over spending time with me. Lately I texted him when I'm laying in bed(and hes downstairs staring at the tv) sexy things etc words or special lingerie I have been thinking of buying and wanted his opinion most of the time he's been ignoring it. Well yesterday our child did poorly at practice and they got yelled. Hubby just broke down because hes trying to get them to understand things and they just ignore him etc. Well I'm sick of hearing hubby yell so after our kids go to bed I do as well and face the wall covered up. Well he comes up stairs for a minute and just says how sad he is that our child doesnt listen(childs 11). He says that hes going back downstairs etc to shut stuff off. Okay whatever. He comes upstairs and lay down so I glance over and he has his phone out. Whatever I'm tired and going to bed. So I literally pass out from exhaustion etc listning to him yell. Idk what time it was or if I was dreaming so I wake up when I feel air on my butt. I didn't know what was going on at first so I tried pulling my pants and my hand got shoved away. I turn and look and he's taking off my pants and turning me over. So I now realize what he's doingYES he has permission to wake me up like that.I'm just trying to understand how he could possibly have been in the mood for sex if he was so stressed from work and our child making him mad etc. Especially when it's also been once a month now on and we already had sex on a Monday and then the night I woke up to him doing the was on a Wednesday.Another thing is I want to know why us women(who aren't currently on the pill etc) have to ask the guy to put on a condom when sex happens? He knows I don't want anymore kids and just yesterday when he woke me up in the middle of the night for sex etc (I knew what was happening I was still a bit groggy),why he didn't wear one at all.We had a huge discussion the past couple months of him not wearing any and he acts like its my responsibility to make sure he does to me telling him I don't want more kids and now he's not wearing them.
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