Catfishing as a kink?

Hi all, so I'm 18/F. I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend, who I love very much. We are also an open relationship, because there's no way we can see each anytime soon.

It's because of this, that the sexual spark in our relationship is sort of gone and fading. We still love one another, but because we can't physically show it, we just aren't as eager to get down n dirty and phone sex has always felt weird for me. Ends up making us miss one another more, to the point where it's just a void. And it's hard for me to really open up so much about my likes and dislikes when it comes to sex because I don't have much experience (I'm a virgin.)

I DO however have fantasies. And lately I've been exploring things like sex toys, and letting him get in on the fun by detailing all the stuff I do to myself.

But I had this idea recently to try and spice things up for when we get those urges, which is to basically catfish him from a fake phone number using an app, and just jump into business. I can see a few ways in which this could go wrong though, because I'm not sure how he'd feel. But if he knew it was me, I feel like it'd ruin the fun. But I also see ways in which it would be really fun and interesting.

I'd just like to know what other people think before I do this. In a way I feel like this is wrong because he wouldn't know it's me. I really don't have any intention of lying or playing games with him, my only intention is to have fun with it. I don't want to accidentally end up hurting his feelings or making him feel like I don't trust him. Is this a bad idea?

Submitted September 15, 2019 at 12:01AM

Hi all, so I'm 18/F. I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend, who I love very much. We are also an open relationship, because there's no way we can see each anytime soon.It's because of this, that the sexual spark in our relationship is sort of gone and fading. We still love one another, but because we can't physically show it, we just aren't as eager to get down n dirty and phone sex has always felt weird for me. Ends up making us miss one another more, to the point where it's just a void. And it's hard for me to really open up so much about my likes and dislikes when it comes to sex because I don't have much experience (I'm a virgin.)I DO however have fantasies. And lately I've been exploring things like sex toys, and letting him get in on the fun by detailing all the stuff I do to myself.But I had this idea recently to try and spice things up for when we get those urges, which is to basically catfish him from a fake phone number using an app, and just jump into business. I can see a few ways in which this could go wrong though, because I'm not sure how he'd feel. But if he knew it was me, I feel like it'd ruin the fun. But I also see ways in which it would be really fun and interesting.I'd just like to know what other people think before I do this. In a way I feel like this is wrong because he wouldn't know it's me. I really don't have any intention of lying or playing games with him, my only intention is to have fun with it. I don't want to accidentally end up hurting his feelings or making him feel like I don't trust him. Is this a bad idea?