My (22M) girlfriend (22F) strongly dislikes my best friend (21M)

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over six months now and everything has been nothing but great between us. I truly feel like she could be someone I could end up spending the rest of my life with.

We met when she went to visit her parents who live in the town where I go to college. She studies abroad, so she usually isn’t around to meet my friends and hang out with them. She spends her time here with me, her parents or her high school friends.

My best friend works as a bartender at our local college bar and we went to get a drink there so he could serve us and meet for the first time, as they both heard so much about each other. He lives across the street from me and we basically hang out every day. She mentioned she’d love to meet him and perhaps the three of us could get a drink. We went to have a drink at the bar when he had his shift and she loved him, thought he was very funny and asked him if he wanted to join us another day.

A couple of days later our frat threw a house party and my friend came over. He had a couple of beers to drink and we then decided to meet up with my girlfriend downtown to have a drink, as she wanted to so before. We met up and sat down, he then started telling her stories about me and mentioned some of the crazy things we did together. My girlfriend is not a fan of smoking and drugs and I have my occasional cigarette which she doesn’t like at all.

As he is my best friend, I tell him everything about my life including some of the situations I had upon first meeting my girlfriend and her family. My friend mentioned some of the things he shouldn’t be knowing as they were basically personal information she told me in private, or my opinion about her family that she didn’t know about. He started asking her questions about what she knew about what I did when she wasn’t around and she got kind of awkward about it, but I just thought my friend was messing around to get a reaction out of me.

When we got back home and went to my bedroom she became furious. She started screaming and crying and told me she felt like she couldn’t trust me and that she absolutely hated my friend. She didn’t understand why I would hang out with him and felt like I wasn’t being honest with her about my life at all. Things calmed down after that and I said I was sorry that she felt that way.

I don’t looovee all of her friends but still hang out with them regardless and feel it’s unfair that she feels the need to tell me she hates him. I do love this girl but am unsure what to do. Should I tell him how she feels or just ignore it and never let their paths cross again for the sake of peace?

Ltdr: my girlfriend hates my best friend because he told her stuff while drunk he shouldn’t have

Edit: typos



Submitted August 15, 2019 at 11:32PM

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over six months now and everything has been nothing but great between us. I truly feel like she could be someone I could end up spending the rest of my life with.We met when she went to visit her parents who live in the town where I go to college. She studies abroad, so she usually isn’t around to meet my friends and hang out with them. She spends her time here with me, her parents or her high school friends.My best friend works as a bartender at our local college bar and we went to get a drink there so he could serve us and meet for the first time, as they both heard so much about each other. He lives across the street from me and we basically hang out every day. She mentioned she’d love to meet him and perhaps the three of us could get a drink. We went to have a drink at the bar when he had his shift and she loved him, thought he was very funny and asked him if he wanted to join us another day.A couple of days later our frat threw a house party and my friend came over. He had a couple of beers to drink and we then decided to meet up with my girlfriend downtown to have a drink, as she wanted to so before. We met up and sat down, he then started telling her stories about me and mentioned some of the crazy things we did together. My girlfriend is not a fan of smoking and drugs and I have my occasional cigarette which she doesn’t like at all.As he is my best friend, I tell him everything about my life including some of the situations I had upon first meeting my girlfriend and her family. My friend mentioned some of the things he shouldn’t be knowing as they were basically personal information she told me in private, or my opinion about her family that she didn’t know about. He started asking her questions about what she knew about what I did when she wasn’t around and she got kind of awkward about it, but I just thought my friend was messing around to get a reaction out of me.When we got back home and went to my bedroom she became furious. She started screaming and crying and told me she felt like she couldn’t trust me and that she absolutely hated my friend. She didn’t understand why I would hang out with him and felt like I wasn’t being honest with her about my life at all. Things calmed down after that and I said I was sorry that she felt that way.I don’t looovee all of her friends but still hang out with them regardless and feel it’s unfair that she feels the need to tell me she hates him. I do love this girl but am unsure what to do. Should I tell him how she feels or just ignore it and never let their paths cross again for the sake of peace?Ltdr: my girlfriend hates my best friend because he told her stuff while drunk he shouldn’t haveEdit: typos
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