I [21M] broke up with my girlfriend[20F] because she wants me to cheat on her.

Me and my girlfriend of two years have been going through issues lately and I recently lost it after she said I should cheat on her so she could get jealous and want me more. To give some backstory, me and my girl are extremely close and we go to the same university. We spend almost every day together and we are pretty much inseparable in alot of aspects.

 Recently (within last year) we have had situations of her texting other guys and being too friendly with them through text. By no means was she being racy in her conduct but very borderline emotional cheating. Each time she has done this I've yelled at her, gotten upset, but forgiven her and moved on. And example of a situation is where she was talking to someone she met at her job and he dude complimented her on her looks and she said something along the lines of "you're cute". We've argued and talked about it and I've decided to forgive her again. Her main point in the argument was that the relationship feels like a marriage and that's overwhelming considering how young she is, she also says that I am perfect and never mess up and that is intimidating. That is understandable, I tell her that I respect her point of view and that I cant change who I am as a person and the reason why I treat her like my world is because that's how I was raised. I let her know that if she wants something else that I cant give her then to let me know and I cant back off. She protested that she did not want to break up. Then she hit me with the bombshell, that maybe if I [me] just cheated then she could see herself being in a relationship with me because then she will feel like im not perfect and she has something worth holding on to. At this point I lost it and regrettably cussed her out and blocked her number and on Ig. Part of me feels as though that she is to juvenile for a real relationship but too afraid to let go of something good.

My question i guess is did I overreact, how should I play this and should I call it quits?

Tl;DR My girlfriend feels that I'm too perfect in a relationship on how I treat her and said that if I cheated then she would be able to be with me because it would 'humanize' me.



Submitted August 02, 2019 at 11:42PM

Me and my girlfriend of two years have been going through issues lately and I recently lost it after she said I should cheat on her so she could get jealous and want me more. To give some backstory, me and my girl are extremely close and we go to the same university. We spend almost every day together and we are pretty much inseparable in alot of aspects. Recently (within last year) we have had situations of her texting other guys and being too friendly with them through text. By no means was she being racy in her conduct but very borderline emotional cheating. Each time she has done this I've yelled at her, gotten upset, but forgiven her and moved on. And example of a situation is where she was talking to someone she met at her job and he dude complimented her on her looks and she said something along the lines of "you're cute". We've argued and talked about it and I've decided to forgive her again. Her main point in the argument was that the relationship feels like a marriage and that's overwhelming considering how young she is, she also says that I am perfect and never mess up and that is intimidating. That is understandable, I tell her that I respect her point of view and that I cant change who I am as a person and the reason why I treat her like my world is because that's how I was raised. I let her know that if she wants something else that I cant give her then to let me know and I cant back off. She protested that she did not want to break up. Then she hit me with the bombshell, that maybe if I [me] just cheated then she could see herself being in a relationship with me because then she will feel like im not perfect and she has something worth holding on to. At this point I lost it and regrettably cussed her out and blocked her number and on Ig. Part of me feels as though that she is to juvenile for a real relationship but too afraid to let go of something good. My question i guess is did I overreact, how should I play this and should I call it quits?Tl;DR My girlfriend feels that I'm too perfect in a relationship on how I treat her and said that if I cheated then she would be able to be with me because it would 'humanize' me.
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