Me [25 F] with Tinder date [28 M] Not sure what to make of this situation?

So, kind of an odd situation. And this will be long winded, a lot has happened. Sorry in advance.

It started out as a Tinder date about 2 months ago. Met up with a dude, we ended up hanging out for a good 6-7 hrs after only initially planning for a couple of drinks. We had a great time, connected instantly. He's acting super interested in me, asking for us to meet up again asap, if I want to go to upcoming concerts with him, the whole nine yards. We end the night making out several times, and I was feeling great about it.

Well, a few days later he ghosted me. Guess that's about what I can expect from Tinder. I was upset because we seemed to really hit it off, but after a couple of days I moved on.

So, fast forward to last weekend. Went to a popular themed club event with my friends, we typically go almost every month. There were two events this month, as opposed to the typical one. I went to the event that was a couple of weeks ago as well, and guess who I had seen there - yep. Ole Casper himself. Don't think he saw me, but that of course kind of set me off that night. Ultimately had a great time anyway though. So yeah, back to last weekend - event comes up again and well..he's there again. This time, we make direct eye contact and he stops in his tracks like a deer in the headlights. I smile and wave.

To my surprise, he comes and sits down beside me. It's loud, being that it's a club and all. But he says "hey, yeah I was kind of a dick huh". I immediately say "Well, I mean yeah. Why'd you ghost me?" Gives me a little monologue about not being sure about a relationship after being fresh out of one (I had brought up not wanting hookup situations on our first date), but that it was really childish to ghost me. Says I did nothing wrong, he really liked me, and if I'd humor it - if I'd give him the chance to make it up to me. Again it's loud here so we don't get to get too indepth about it, but I tell him I'll unblock em, and we'll see what happens. He leaves well before I do, buys me a drink before he exits.

So, I finally get home at about 3am. Unblock em, add em back on FB. He messages me almost immediately. Asks me if we can talk on the phone. I'm beat, but I'm honestly pretty curious so I say why not. We talk on the phone for a good while, he reiterates his apologies and that he handled it incorrectly. And that he's 100% aware that he needs to build the trust that he destroyed. So, asks me if I'd like to meet up for coffee or something. I agree, and later that day we meet up for a bit. Hang out for about 3 hrs, still kind of going over wanting to move past how it was handled, etc. Him wanting to make it right, and maybe spend the 4th with me this week if neither of us have plans. Basically my stance at this point is, I can appreciate an apology and reaching out so - we'll take it at a LITERAL turtle's pace, but fine, let's see what happens.

We end that date, and before he gets to bed for work the next morning he send me a long text telling me again he's sorry, and was really happy that I gave him a chance to meet up. He has a busy week, needs to buy a new car/check in on his mom whose been unwell etc but that we'll keep in touch.

We haven't talked much over the past couple of days, but for the moment, I'm not too worried and I assume part of it is him not wanting to overstep after what had happened before.

So, guess my question is - what would you make of this, from an outside perspective? Of course it would be purely speculation, who knows what's going on in his mind. I'm concerned that this may just be a way to keep me around as a back up kind of situation. He seems genuine at the moment, but the ghosting from before is enough to tell me it can easily happen again. I offered to simply be friends, since we enjoy a lot of the same things. I can live with that. But he's been eager to note that he wants to see if it can be more potentially.

TL;DR: Went on a date once before, hit it off but then he ghosts me. Life goes on, about 2 months later we happen to run into eachother at an event. He initiates talking in person, reconnecting on social media etc - seems to want to rekindle this and see where it goes, I agree to taking it slow and there's no pressure for this to go one way or another. What are your thoughts?

Submitted July 02, 2019 at 11:52PM

So, kind of an odd situation. And this will be long winded, a lot has happened. Sorry in advance.It started out as a Tinder date about 2 months ago. Met up with a dude, we ended up hanging out for a good 6-7 hrs after only initially planning for a couple of drinks. We had a great time, connected instantly. He's acting super interested in me, asking for us to meet up again asap, if I want to go to upcoming concerts with him, the whole nine yards. We end the night making out several times, and I was feeling great about it.Well, a few days later he ghosted me. Guess that's about what I can expect from Tinder. I was upset because we seemed to really hit it off, but after a couple of days I moved on.So, fast forward to last weekend. Went to a popular themed club event with my friends, we typically go almost every month. There were two events this month, as opposed to the typical one. I went to the event that was a couple of weeks ago as well, and guess who I had seen there - yep. Ole Casper himself. Don't think he saw me, but that of course kind of set me off that night. Ultimately had a great time anyway though. So yeah, back to last weekend - event comes up again and well..he's there again. This time, we make direct eye contact and he stops in his tracks like a deer in the headlights. I smile and wave.To my surprise, he comes and sits down beside me. It's loud, being that it's a club and all. But he says "hey, yeah I was kind of a dick huh". I immediately say "Well, I mean yeah. Why'd you ghost me?" Gives me a little monologue about not being sure about a relationship after being fresh out of one (I had brought up not wanting hookup situations on our first date), but that it was really childish to ghost me. Says I did nothing wrong, he really liked me, and if I'd humor it - if I'd give him the chance to make it up to me. Again it's loud here so we don't get to get too indepth about it, but I tell him I'll unblock em, and we'll see what happens. He leaves well before I do, buys me a drink before he exits.So, I finally get home at about 3am. Unblock em, add em back on FB. He messages me almost immediately. Asks me if we can talk on the phone. I'm beat, but I'm honestly pretty curious so I say why not. We talk on the phone for a good while, he reiterates his apologies and that he handled it incorrectly. And that he's 100% aware that he needs to build the trust that he destroyed. So, asks me if I'd like to meet up for coffee or something. I agree, and later that day we meet up for a bit. Hang out for about 3 hrs, still kind of going over wanting to move past how it was handled, etc. Him wanting to make it right, and maybe spend the 4th with me this week if neither of us have plans. Basically my stance at this point is, I can appreciate an apology and reaching out so - we'll take it at a LITERAL turtle's pace, but fine, let's see what happens.We end that date, and before he gets to bed for work the next morning he send me a long text telling me again he's sorry, and was really happy that I gave him a chance to meet up. He has a busy week, needs to buy a new car/check in on his mom whose been unwell etc but that we'll keep in touch.We haven't talked much over the past couple of days, but for the moment, I'm not too worried and I assume part of it is him not wanting to overstep after what had happened before.So, guess my question is - what would you make of this, from an outside perspective? Of course it would be purely speculation, who knows what's going on in his mind. I'm concerned that this may just be a way to keep me around as a back up kind of situation. He seems genuine at the moment, but the ghosting from before is enough to tell me it can easily happen again. I offered to simply be friends, since we enjoy a lot of the same things. I can live with that. But he's been eager to note that he wants to see if it can be more potentially.TL;DR: Went on a date once before, hit it off but then he ghosts me. Life goes on, about 2 months later we happen to run into eachother at an event. He initiates talking in person, reconnecting on social media etc - seems to want to rekindle this and see where it goes, I agree to taking it slow and there's no pressure for this to go one way or another. What are your thoughts?