I need help Reddit!

Okay Reddit I need some advise. Okay, some backstory I was with another woman (my ex-fiance) for seven years and about four months after breaking up due to her emotionally cheating on me and eventually banging another guy over 500 miles away who then used her...Ha... I gave her an heirloom ring that I jazzed up and owe money on years before all that took place. Now I'm 29 and my new girlfriend is 31 and has a 12 year old kid. I have been with my new girlfriend for about 9 months. On month three she started talking about marriage and I let her know I wasn't ready and that it was to soon to be talking abut it. I was stupid and brought up that I had an heirloom ring. She asked if my ex-fiance ever had it and I said no. She was a little upset but got over it. We have our little fights here and there and she never listens when I'm talking during arguments.

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Now my girlfriend seems like she loves me. She tells me how everything is mine and this and that almost in a, I'm going to wear you like a shirt type of way. She says she doesn't want to wait for me to be ready in a year or two to be ready for the things she wants. I'm just trying to take it day by day. She has a manipulative, controlling, and insecure personality that causes us to fight. During fights she will bring up old crap from long ago that's not part of the conversation. On month eight, she found out I lied about the ring being my exes and got pissed off at me and demands I buy her a new one. I have told her no because one It's an heirloom and two I still owe money on the damn thing. So when she found out I lied she started getting all hurt talking about how she can't trust me now. To make matters worse she also thinks watching porn is cheating and we ran into that conversation when I admitted to watching porn. She just about lost her shit. Crying and acting hurt. After a talk, I understood why she was hurt and said "I never thought of it that way I'm sorry I hurt you and I won't ever do it again." That statement also shows that I'm not sorry I watched porn just sorry it hurt her and I haven't touched it since. So because of these two instances she 100% believes she has an adequate reason to doubt me and she openly says she doesn't trust me and that I have given her a reason not to. I get so mad and we fight over it. Last night I was yelling for about four freaking hours! Am I a dick or is she psycho to be mad and not trust me? I HAVE NOT CHEATED!

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On a side note whenever I think about breaking up with her I'm 60% for yes and 40% for no and sometimes it goes to 50-50. I care more about hurting her daughters and families feelings than hers.

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TL;DR; : I want advise from some outside sources on what they would do with this kind of girlfriend.



Submitted July 03, 2019 at 12:09AM

Okay Reddit I need some advise. Okay, some backstory I was with another woman (my ex-fiance) for seven years and about four months after breaking up due to her emotionally cheating on me and eventually banging another guy over 500 miles away who then used her...Ha... I gave her an heirloom ring that I jazzed up and owe money on years before all that took place. Now I'm 29 and my new girlfriend is 31 and has a 12 year old kid. I have been with my new girlfriend for about 9 months. On month three she started talking about marriage and I let her know I wasn't ready and that it was to soon to be talking abut it. I was stupid and brought up that I had an heirloom ring. She asked if my ex-fiance ever had it and I said no. She was a little upset but got over it. We have our little fights here and there and she never listens when I'm talking during arguments.​Now my girlfriend seems like she loves me. She tells me how everything is mine and this and that almost in a, I'm going to wear you like a shirt type of way. She says she doesn't want to wait for me to be ready in a year or two to be ready for the things she wants. I'm just trying to take it day by day. She has a manipulative, controlling, and insecure personality that causes us to fight. During fights she will bring up old crap from long ago that's not part of the conversation. On month eight, she found out I lied about the ring being my exes and got pissed off at me and demands I buy her a new one. I have told her no because one It's an heirloom and two I still owe money on the damn thing. So when she found out I lied she started getting all hurt talking about how she can't trust me now. To make matters worse she also thinks watching porn is cheating and we ran into that conversation when I admitted to watching porn. She just about lost her shit. Crying and acting hurt. After a talk, I understood why she was hurt and said "I never thought of it that way I'm sorry I hurt you and I won't ever do it again." That statement also shows that I'm not sorry I watched porn just sorry it hurt her and I haven't touched it since. So because of these two instances she 100% believes she has an adequate reason to doubt me and she openly says she doesn't trust me and that I have given her a reason not to. I get so mad and we fight over it. Last night I was yelling for about four freaking hours! Am I a dick or is she psycho to be mad and not trust me? I HAVE NOT CHEATED!​On a side note whenever I think about breaking up with her I'm 60% for yes and 40% for no and sometimes it goes to 50-50. I care more about hurting her daughters and families feelings than hers.​TL;DR; : I want advise from some outside sources on what they would do with this kind of girlfriend.
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