He hasn’t called or texted since first date

I (22) went on a first date with a guy (31) 4 nights ago, he hasn’t contacted me since. I know there’s a possibility that the date didn’t go as well as I think, but we literally went to the movies! Please don’t shame me for going to the movies on a first date, we are giving him the benefit of the doubt. There was good conversation and we talked in his car awhile before the movie started. He never made any sexual advances. We were pretty close during the movie, like his arm around me (it was the recliner seats) and everything. Once the movie was over, neither of us said much. He walked me to the car, I thanked him, we hugged and he waited for me to pull off. Afterwards, I texted him thank you and that I enjoyed the date. He said he was glad I enjoyed myself?? And he would talk to me soon.

Backstory: I gave him my number a while ago but we hadn’t texted much. He never invited me on a date so I wasn’t too interested. I told him happy new year and then he asked me out. He said he didn’t wanna seem pushy, which is why he hadn’t contacted me.

Part of me thinks he’s shy, he never made too much eye contact with me and he seems gentle. I am also not the most inviting, I’ve been told before that I seem uninterested in other guys and things, but I really am just shy. I didn’t ask him a million questions because he seemed like he didn’t want to share too much.

The other part of me— the woman in me— is saying that if he wanted to, he would. Men are hunters.

Help. I’ve been stressing since that night. Honest answers appreciated, I’d rather complete strangers hurt my feelings than be rejected.

Submitted January 07, 2022 at 12:16AM

I (22) went on a first date with a guy (31) 4 nights ago, he hasn’t contacted me since. I know there’s a possibility that the date didn’t go as well as I think, but we literally went to the movies! Please don’t shame me for going to the movies on a first date, we are giving him the benefit of the doubt. There was good conversation and we talked in his car awhile before the movie started. He never made any sexual advances. We were pretty close during the movie, like his arm around me (it was the recliner seats) and everything. Once the movie was over, neither of us said much. He walked me to the car, I thanked him, we hugged and he waited for me to pull off. Afterwards, I texted him thank you and that I enjoyed the date. He said he was glad I enjoyed myself?? And he would talk to me soon.Backstory: I gave him my number a while ago but we hadn’t texted much. He never invited me on a date so I wasn’t too interested. I told him happy new year and then he asked me out. He said he didn’t wanna seem pushy, which is why he hadn’t contacted me.Part of me thinks he’s shy, he never made too much eye contact with me and he seems gentle. I am also not the most inviting, I’ve been told before that I seem uninterested in other guys and things, but I really am just shy. I didn’t ask him a million questions because he seemed like he didn’t want to share too much.The other part of me— the woman in me— is saying that if he wanted to, he would. Men are hunters.Help. I’ve been stressing since that night. Honest answers appreciated, I’d rather complete strangers hurt my feelings than be rejected.