Awkward first date but she’s open to a second one. What do I do?

I (M29) matched this girl (F24) on hinge. Things escalated pretty quickly. Texting non stop everyday led to phone calls every night for a week. I could tell she was really into me and said she kept saying she really fancied my pictures. We also had a lot in common including both living abroad in the same exact place.

Things felt like a relationship on the phone and we flirted a lot. We arranged to meet one night, she was going to drive to me and stay at mine after the date (drinks and mini golf in the city).

She drove up to me and I went to help park her car. I was incredibly nervous and felt like she was a bit cold or stand off-Ish, there was not much eye contact or flirty body language but she’s was pleasant enough. It quickly got a bit awkward and the conversation didn’t seem to flow. The connection we had on the phone was nonexistent.

After a lot of awkward silences we arrived at our date location. And I just had to break the ice and mention I was nervous meeting her and thought she seemed a bit cold. She was very surprised to hear that but also surprised to hear I wasn’t very confident. But I also had the worst day before I met her and I just wasn’t in the right headspace.

We played mini golf. It was really fun and we actually had a good time and laughed. I saw her warm up a little.

She then wanted to stay for food and another drink. But she said she wouldn’t stay the night. Thought this was a bummer as i assumed she felt awkward now she met me in person after being excited for staying over when texting

Conversation seemed to flow a bit better. She opened up that she struggles to feel comfortable and intimate around people, she suffered with some mental issues and self esteem issues and just wanted to find someone who accepted her for all her flaws. I could tell because she kept asking if she looked like her photos and mentioning her appearance.

She also talked about when she’s drunk she’s a different person. That’s she has often done a few one night stands etc. I asked why she originally said she wanted to stay and why she doesn’t want to now. She mentioned she only wanted to stay because she thought we were drinking heavily and couldn’t drive back.

She did ask if I would see her again and I said yeah I would like to get to know you more. I asked the same question and she said yes she would because I’m nice. But I wasn’t convinced and she made a comment to say she was being truthful.

When she left, we hugged and I said text me when you get back home. She did text me. I text back the next day saying I had been under a lot of stress and I would like to spend more time with her when I’m back from holiday. She said she understands and she would be open to seeing me again when I’m back. She even put a smiley face.

I’m shocked, I thought she wasn’t interested in me, it was an awkward date with a lot of awkward moments. we then exchanged a few more messages after she said that and she just seems a bit blunt, not her usual style of texting.

I don’t know what to do now. I feel she is just being nice and she probably doesn’t like me but I don’t know if I’m being paranoid because I felt awkward. Should I Pursue this further? Do I try to keep texting while I’m away or give her space? Any help would be great

Submitted January 07, 2022 at 12:15AM

I (M29) matched this girl (F24) on hinge. Things escalated pretty quickly. Texting non stop everyday led to phone calls every night for a week. I could tell she was really into me and said she kept saying she really fancied my pictures. We also had a lot in common including both living abroad in the same exact place.Things felt like a relationship on the phone and we flirted a lot. We arranged to meet one night, she was going to drive to me and stay at mine after the date (drinks and mini golf in the city).She drove up to me and I went to help park her car. I was incredibly nervous and felt like she was a bit cold or stand off-Ish, there was not much eye contact or flirty body language but she’s was pleasant enough. It quickly got a bit awkward and the conversation didn’t seem to flow. The connection we had on the phone was nonexistent.After a lot of awkward silences we arrived at our date location. And I just had to break the ice and mention I was nervous meeting her and thought she seemed a bit cold. She was very surprised to hear that but also surprised to hear I wasn’t very confident. But I also had the worst day before I met her and I just wasn’t in the right headspace.We played mini golf. It was really fun and we actually had a good time and laughed. I saw her warm up a little.She then wanted to stay for food and another drink. But she said she wouldn’t stay the night. Thought this was a bummer as i assumed she felt awkward now she met me in person after being excited for staying over when textingConversation seemed to flow a bit better. She opened up that she struggles to feel comfortable and intimate around people, she suffered with some mental issues and self esteem issues and just wanted to find someone who accepted her for all her flaws. I could tell because she kept asking if she looked like her photos and mentioning her appearance.She also talked about when she’s drunk she’s a different person. That’s she has often done a few one night stands etc. I asked why she originally said she wanted to stay and why she doesn’t want to now. She mentioned she only wanted to stay because she thought we were drinking heavily and couldn’t drive back.She did ask if I would see her again and I said yeah I would like to get to know you more. I asked the same question and she said yes she would because I’m nice. But I wasn’t convinced and she made a comment to say she was being truthful.When she left, we hugged and I said text me when you get back home. She did text me. I text back the next day saying I had been under a lot of stress and I would like to spend more time with her when I’m back from holiday. She said she understands and she would be open to seeing me again when I’m back. She even put a smiley face.I’m shocked, I thought she wasn’t interested in me, it was an awkward date with a lot of awkward moments. we then exchanged a few more messages after she said that and she just seems a bit blunt, not her usual style of texting.I don’t know what to do now. I feel she is just being nice and she probably doesn’t like me but I don’t know if I’m being paranoid because I felt awkward. Should I Pursue this further? Do I try to keep texting while I’m away or give her space? Any help would be great