Updating your online dating profile while consistently showing interest in someone

I have been seeing a 32M for a little over a month now. We met on Hinge, and we have actively been talking literally every single day since the end of July. I love his consistency, effort and communication, deepness of conversations and how all of the dating rules when it comes to texting/communication go out the window and there are no games involved with this - or are they?

We have gone on 3 dates and everytime I go out he always makes it a point to ask if im going to be talking to other guys etc (while he makes it come off like a joke, I dont think hes joking). Nonetheless, the attention and everything has been there and he even told me he likes me and can see this potentially going somewhere, and I agreed that the feeling was mutual.

However, yesterday we went out and I complimented him on one of his photos. Today, oddly enough I went to check the app randomly and noticed that he had moved the photo to his primary photo. This really threw me off. While I understand that we are not exclusive, he made it a point that he would not be comfortable with me sleeping with other guys during this "phase" or basically even talking to another guy. Being that it's been going well, I haven't even had the desire to do so and told him I don't frequent the apps or go on dates with other men, which is true. Since it's been going well, I didn't think that he would still be active on the apps and now, classically, I am overthinking the situation and its skewing my perception of him slightly.

MEN - why do you do this and what does it mean? Does he want me to notice for jealousy purposes? Does he still want to keep his options open?

WOMEN/MEN - have you ever experienced this?

I don't think that he isnt genuinely interested since I know his schedule to a tee and theres no way he could be meeting up with others and he's very open with communicating what hes doing without me even asking. He even double and sometimes triple messages if he doesnt hear from me for long perioes of times. But man, this kinda shocked me a bit.



Submitted September 09, 2021 at 11:46PM

I have been seeing a 32M for a little over a month now. We met on Hinge, and we have actively been talking literally every single day since the end of July. I love his consistency, effort and communication, deepness of conversations and how all of the dating rules when it comes to texting/communication go out the window and there are no games involved with this - or are they?We have gone on 3 dates and everytime I go out he always makes it a point to ask if im going to be talking to other guys etc (while he makes it come off like a joke, I dont think hes joking). Nonetheless, the attention and everything has been there and he even told me he likes me and can see this potentially going somewhere, and I agreed that the feeling was mutual.However, yesterday we went out and I complimented him on one of his photos. Today, oddly enough I went to check the app randomly and noticed that he had moved the photo to his primary photo. This really threw me off. While I understand that we are not exclusive, he made it a point that he would not be comfortable with me sleeping with other guys during this "phase" or basically even talking to another guy. Being that it's been going well, I haven't even had the desire to do so and told him I don't frequent the apps or go on dates with other men, which is true. Since it's been going well, I didn't think that he would still be active on the apps and now, classically, I am overthinking the situation and its skewing my perception of him slightly.MEN - why do you do this and what does it mean? Does he want me to notice for jealousy purposes? Does he still want to keep his options open?WOMEN/MEN - have you ever experienced this?I don't think that he isnt genuinely interested since I know his schedule to a tee and theres no way he could be meeting up with others and he's very open with communicating what hes doing without me even asking. He even double and sometimes triple messages if he doesnt hear from me for long perioes of times. But man, this kinda shocked me a bit.
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