How do I become good enough for women?

I have never been in a relationship or hooked up before and Im about to be 27. Most women I did go on dates with walked all over me, lied to me, and made me their back up guy. The woman I cared about the most ended up dating a guy I trusted and considered a friend for a few years and it destroyed any confidence or hope I could ever have. Its been a few years since then and I havent been on a date in a couple of years.

She was someone I thought it would work out with and she was attractive but there were a lot of red flags and she would go back and forth with wanting to keep seeing me but never saying why. I will never be good enough for her, or be half the guy he is,or ever have their experiences, or ever be with someone like her. My life is all downhill from here, I can never have a real relationship, fun, experiences, or get to date around. Dating apps never worked for me, I cant meet women at all, I never got to have the college experience, never got to date attractive women and now never will be able to, never got to meet the love of my life in college. Im just a worthless, pathetic, inexperienced, single, loser.

I guess I wasnt that confident, naive, too available, accommodating, never spoke up, never thought women would play games, and trusted them too much so I was always just good enough to be a back up guy. The best years of my life are over and they werent even great at all. I cant even ever share my firsts with a woman who is inexperienced like me. Even if something works out now whats the point? It will be with a woman years from now who is just settling for me and got to live her life fully while I got nowhere and was always alone. And none of it will matter or be special or mean anything.

People my age have had multiple relationships and hook ups and I never experienced one. Women find inexperienced guys disgusting as well. I literally just have work and the gym and sitting in bed thinking about how worthless I am to look forward to for the rest of my life.



Submitted September 10, 2021 at 01:14AM

I have never been in a relationship or hooked up before and Im about to be 27. Most women I did go on dates with walked all over me, lied to me, and made me their back up guy. The woman I cared about the most ended up dating a guy I trusted and considered a friend for a few years and it destroyed any confidence or hope I could ever have. Its been a few years since then and I havent been on a date in a couple of years.She was someone I thought it would work out with and she was attractive but there were a lot of red flags and she would go back and forth with wanting to keep seeing me but never saying why. I will never be good enough for her, or be half the guy he is,or ever have their experiences, or ever be with someone like her. My life is all downhill from here, I can never have a real relationship, fun, experiences, or get to date around. Dating apps never worked for me, I cant meet women at all, I never got to have the college experience, never got to date attractive women and now never will be able to, never got to meet the love of my life in college. Im just a worthless, pathetic, inexperienced, single, loser.I guess I wasnt that confident, naive, too available, accommodating, never spoke up, never thought women would play games, and trusted them too much so I was always just good enough to be a back up guy. The best years of my life are over and they werent even great at all. I cant even ever share my firsts with a woman who is inexperienced like me. Even if something works out now whats the point? It will be with a woman years from now who is just settling for me and got to live her life fully while I got nowhere and was always alone. And none of it will matter or be special or mean anything.People my age have had multiple relationships and hook ups and I never experienced one. Women find inexperienced guys disgusting as well. I literally just have work and the gym and sitting in bed thinking about how worthless I am to look forward to for the rest of my life.
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