19F constantly giving me (21M) mixed signals - don’t know what to do

I went on two dates with this girl from college last year (prior to the pandemic) but we called it off as she wasn’t interested in a relationship at the time. She made contact again about two months ago, looking to catch up. We agreed to start going on dates and see where it goes. We went on two dates, both went great. She rejected a kiss on the second date as she wanted to take things slow.

I went abroad for two weeks so haven’t seen her in about a month at this stage. We had planned to meet earlier this week but she cancelled as she ran into issues with her landlord. I’ve been trying to organise a new time with her, but have been finding it increasingly difficult to get interaction/discussion going. Ever since she made contact with me I have been leading/initiating conversation, aside from once or twice when I hadn’t text her in a few days and she text me.

The issue is the mixed signals. One day she is incredibly interested, seriously flirty and wanting to meet up, but the next she is odd, one word text answers, not interested in even remotely entertaining conversation. This happens repeatedly and doesn’t seem to follow any pattern. I can’t understand why she’s super interested some days and the next day not interested at all. This is incredibly tiring for me and quite frustrating as I do find her incredibly attractive and when we’re together in person we get on incredibly well. I’m not sure whether she’s a bad texter (she rarely continues on conversation and almost always leaves me on opened rather than branching discussion) considering she didn’t use her phone much when we met in person, or if she’s just messing with me.

I’ve decided not to text her since she last left me on opened (almost 48 hours now) and am waiting for her to text me. My friends have told me I should really ask her what she wants but I fear that I may be picking up the situation wrong and just overthinking. I was planning on giving her until Tuesday (she’s back in town Monday) to text me to organise a new time before texting her and asking her whether I’m wasting my time or whether this is actually something I can pursue.

Interested to hear opinions on whether this is me overthinking or whether this is normal. I’ve only been in a short-term relationship before so this is still new to me.

Thanks in advance.

EDIT: Would like to add she is not experienced in dating. Has never been in a relationship and is a virgin.

Submitted September 09, 2021 at 11:45PM

I went on two dates with this girl from college last year (prior to the pandemic) but we called it off as she wasn’t interested in a relationship at the time. She made contact again about two months ago, looking to catch up. We agreed to start going on dates and see where it goes. We went on two dates, both went great. She rejected a kiss on the second date as she wanted to take things slow.I went abroad for two weeks so haven’t seen her in about a month at this stage. We had planned to meet earlier this week but she cancelled as she ran into issues with her landlord. I’ve been trying to organise a new time with her, but have been finding it increasingly difficult to get interaction/discussion going. Ever since she made contact with me I have been leading/initiating conversation, aside from once or twice when I hadn’t text her in a few days and she text me.The issue is the mixed signals. One day she is incredibly interested, seriously flirty and wanting to meet up, but the next she is odd, one word text answers, not interested in even remotely entertaining conversation. This happens repeatedly and doesn’t seem to follow any pattern. I can’t understand why she’s super interested some days and the next day not interested at all. This is incredibly tiring for me and quite frustrating as I do find her incredibly attractive and when we’re together in person we get on incredibly well. I’m not sure whether she’s a bad texter (she rarely continues on conversation and almost always leaves me on opened rather than branching discussion) considering she didn’t use her phone much when we met in person, or if she’s just messing with me.I’ve decided not to text her since she last left me on opened (almost 48 hours now) and am waiting for her to text me. My friends have told me I should really ask her what she wants but I fear that I may be picking up the situation wrong and just overthinking. I was planning on giving her until Tuesday (she’s back in town Monday) to text me to organise a new time before texting her and asking her whether I’m wasting my time or whether this is actually something I can pursue.Interested to hear opinions on whether this is me overthinking or whether this is normal. I’ve only been in a short-term relationship before so this is still new to me.Thanks in advance.EDIT: Would like to add she is not experienced in dating. Has never been in a relationship and is a virgin.